zachnsamsmommy
Evil Diva
- Joined
- Mar 20, 2009
I don't know if this is a vent, or a PSA or what...but I have really learned to eat crow the past year.
Before I had kids...I was 'appalled' to see 3-4 yr olds in diapers, or drinking out of bottles...or having meltdowns in public places. I just always assumed the parents were lazy, or didn't care.
That was until I was that parent...and my child is autistic. He is 3 1/2...and still not potty trained. He is terrified of the flushing noise, and screams hysterically if he is forced to be in a stall with me. We are trying a little potty...no flushing...at home, but not much luck.
And yesterday...I got a few dirty looks at the hairdresser for him having a meltdown getting a haircut. Luckily, my stylist and many of the others know he is autistic, and I don't get grief from them. I try to do it at a 'not busy' time...and she cuts his hair as quickly as possible (and does an excellent job under the circumstances). But some customers really gave me 'the look'...
Anyways...I still occassionally think something bad when I see an ill behaved child, or a child that isn't doing things age-appropriately. But then I try to think about what I DON'T know about that child's history.
Anyways...I guess I am THAT mother that is probably discussed badly on the DIS and other boards. But maybe if people realized that sometimes there are reasons...
Before I had kids...I was 'appalled' to see 3-4 yr olds in diapers, or drinking out of bottles...or having meltdowns in public places. I just always assumed the parents were lazy, or didn't care.
That was until I was that parent...and my child is autistic. He is 3 1/2...and still not potty trained. He is terrified of the flushing noise, and screams hysterically if he is forced to be in a stall with me. We are trying a little potty...no flushing...at home, but not much luck.
And yesterday...I got a few dirty looks at the hairdresser for him having a meltdown getting a haircut. Luckily, my stylist and many of the others know he is autistic, and I don't get grief from them. I try to do it at a 'not busy' time...and she cuts his hair as quickly as possible (and does an excellent job under the circumstances). But some customers really gave me 'the look'...
Anyways...I still occassionally think something bad when I see an ill behaved child, or a child that isn't doing things age-appropriately. But then I try to think about what I DON'T know about that child's history.
Anyways...I guess I am THAT mother that is probably discussed badly on the DIS and other boards. But maybe if people realized that sometimes there are reasons...