I also agree with the good points some other posters made: as long as he's not running up large bills, or looking at porn that's violent or illegal, and kids can't access it, then it's really not worth a huge fight.
And I do agree that to an extent it would be an issue of respect, but I think that if Never2Old4Magic took some steps to really feel better about herself, it wouldn't be such a big deal. I thought it was interesting that some posters said that when they were first married it was a big deal, and now that they've been married a while, it's so not a big deal! Because they are secure in themselves, in their love, and in their relationships. It makes such a huge difference.
And I do agree that to an extent it would be an issue of respect, but I think that if Never2Old4Magic took some steps to really feel better about herself, it wouldn't be such a big deal. I thought it was interesting that some posters said that when they were first married it was a big deal, and now that they've been married a while, it's so not a big deal! Because they are secure in themselves, in their love, and in their relationships. It makes such a huge difference.