I guess I will start from the beginning my ds was born with water on his brain. It was communicating hydrocephulus to be exact. Not a birth defect but probably caused during birth. He took medication never had to have a shunt. When he was 4 they discharged him with a clean bill of health and said you won't notice any delays by the time he is five.
Well he is now 7 and we are still struggling. He has speech since he was 15months old. He started the preschool program at 3 with the school district. His b-day is Aug 20 which is a nightmare. Because when it came time for Kdg he made the cutt off so they would not let him stay another year in pre-k and there was no young 5's or anything. I could have sent him to private school but he would have still had to go to the public school for therapy several times a week. So fastfoward to now. He is repeating 1st this year. We hoped that the issues he was having was just immaturity and him just needing to catch up. We had him evaluated for ADD (he is not hyper at all) the doctor would have put him on meds right away. But it didn't really seem like anyone could agree that he had ADD. So I thought repeating was a better option.
It is already a month of school and ds still talks about his old friends, looks for his old friends and frequently asks when can he go to second grade. He always was a social child who made friends easily. He has this ability to charm other kids. Especially the girls. He will be a heartbreaker. He is not even trying to make friends. He acts annoyed when these kids try to talk to him after school. When he sees his old friends he tells me he feels angry and jealous. He does not eat lunch with them or have recess with the old gang except on occasion. Well I guess last week on one of these occasions. Some of the boys asked him why he did not go to second. He told them my mom won't let me. The boy told ds he should hit and kick his mom. Ds told him he could never do that. That made me feel good but made me feel bad that he felt like I did this to him.
As far as academics. He can do the work. He is top 5 in reading this year but his teacher said he will soon be left behind if he can't focus. He such the opposite around adults as he is with dk's. He is shy, has no self confidence and scared to get in trouble. He has always done everything slow. He has one speed. He is not a discipline problem. It's almost like you see him trying to process what steps he needs to do to obtain the goal but he either fumbles or does it slowly. (If that makes sense)Like soccer for example this was his 4th season. Last year he had a coach that was real involved and yelled out on the field what they needed to do. This years coach is less hands on and my ds acts lost! He is finally doing better at the end of the season. But he would say he just didn't know how to get around those other kids?? He has also made comments that sometimes his brain just doesn't work. I will say these problems are not as prounced at home or maybe we are just desentized to it and used to waiting on him or repeating ourselves.
I guess at this point I am going to take him back to the doctor and try some meds. Or any other tests they want to try. The school thinks it would be a waste to test him for further learning disabilities. He knows to much and would pass. I feel like that there is something wrong that they have not pinpointed yet. I have a nephew 4 who is autistic and I always worry. Dh is tired of hearing about it. He thinks I am making a big deal out of nothing and he will be fine. He was the same way and look at him he went to college. He also likes to frequently remind me that he was against holding him back and told me it would be traumatic. He was held back and hated it. I still think this was the best thing. If you got this far thanks for just letting me vent. Any advice or suggestions would be great.
Well he is now 7 and we are still struggling. He has speech since he was 15months old. He started the preschool program at 3 with the school district. His b-day is Aug 20 which is a nightmare. Because when it came time for Kdg he made the cutt off so they would not let him stay another year in pre-k and there was no young 5's or anything. I could have sent him to private school but he would have still had to go to the public school for therapy several times a week. So fastfoward to now. He is repeating 1st this year. We hoped that the issues he was having was just immaturity and him just needing to catch up. We had him evaluated for ADD (he is not hyper at all) the doctor would have put him on meds right away. But it didn't really seem like anyone could agree that he had ADD. So I thought repeating was a better option.
It is already a month of school and ds still talks about his old friends, looks for his old friends and frequently asks when can he go to second grade. He always was a social child who made friends easily. He has this ability to charm other kids. Especially the girls. He will be a heartbreaker. He is not even trying to make friends. He acts annoyed when these kids try to talk to him after school. When he sees his old friends he tells me he feels angry and jealous. He does not eat lunch with them or have recess with the old gang except on occasion. Well I guess last week on one of these occasions. Some of the boys asked him why he did not go to second. He told them my mom won't let me. The boy told ds he should hit and kick his mom. Ds told him he could never do that. That made me feel good but made me feel bad that he felt like I did this to him.
As far as academics. He can do the work. He is top 5 in reading this year but his teacher said he will soon be left behind if he can't focus. He such the opposite around adults as he is with dk's. He is shy, has no self confidence and scared to get in trouble. He has always done everything slow. He has one speed. He is not a discipline problem. It's almost like you see him trying to process what steps he needs to do to obtain the goal but he either fumbles or does it slowly. (If that makes sense)Like soccer for example this was his 4th season. Last year he had a coach that was real involved and yelled out on the field what they needed to do. This years coach is less hands on and my ds acts lost! He is finally doing better at the end of the season. But he would say he just didn't know how to get around those other kids?? He has also made comments that sometimes his brain just doesn't work. I will say these problems are not as prounced at home or maybe we are just desentized to it and used to waiting on him or repeating ourselves.
I guess at this point I am going to take him back to the doctor and try some meds. Or any other tests they want to try. The school thinks it would be a waste to test him for further learning disabilities. He knows to much and would pass. I feel like that there is something wrong that they have not pinpointed yet. I have a nephew 4 who is autistic and I always worry. Dh is tired of hearing about it. He thinks I am making a big deal out of nothing and he will be fine. He was the same way and look at him he went to college. He also likes to frequently remind me that he was against holding him back and told me it would be traumatic. He was held back and hated it. I still think this was the best thing. If you got this far thanks for just letting me vent. Any advice or suggestions would be great.