mrsstats79
Mouseketeer
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- Apr 28, 2020
I have not lost my spouse but I am so sorry for your loss. Perhaps grief counciling.
I'm sorry to lay my troubles on you. Blame it on lack of sleep and being lonely. There's some really good advice here. Thank you all.
You have no reason to be sorry. Your fellow Disney Fans come here to be helped and to help in return. In time, it is possible to have peace. You were right to reach out. Give yourself grace in all you do. Right now, take one breath and one step at a time. The important thing is to keep stepping and breathing. As DD said when she was little and learning to ride a bike, "When I stop, I drop." If you fall, pick yourself back up, give yourself a hug, and keep stepping. Your family will be so glad you did.I'm sorry to lay my troubles on you. Blame it on lack of sleep and being lonely. There's some really good advice here. Thank you all.
You have no reason to be sorry. Your fellow Disney Fans come here to be helped and to help in return. In time, it is possible to have peace. You were right to reach out. Give yourself grace in all you do. Right now, take one breath and one step at a time. The important thing is to keep stepping and breathing. As DD said when she was little and learning to ride a bike, "When I stop, I drop." If you fall, pick yourself back up, give yourself a hug, and keep stepping. Your family will be so glad you did.
My DH passed 4.5 years ago. Although I was in a totally different situation, I thought I might share what helped me. People are correct in that grief is something needs to be worked through and not ignored. Still, my mind needed a rest from both grief and all the responsibilities of raising my teens. I have a couple practical ideas.
When I toss and turn instead of sleeping, I get up and watch YouTube videos of places I'd like to go. Sometimes I watch vlogs, but mainly I enjoy the videos with music and beautiful landscapes. I am a teacher and will not be able to afford all those dreams, but it gets my mind off of my concerns. Often, I am able to fall asleep once I am able to stop thinking about . . . well everything. I have read that the light of the computer screen can keep you awake. But I find that quieting my mind helps me sleep despite the computer light.
I also need hope - something to look forward to doing. I've always needed hope and I am always planning my next trip. I remember coming home from a trip and I mentioned to DH that it was sad to be at the end of our trip. He told me to get over the sadness you should start to plan your next trip. Little did he know at the time, but he created a trip planning monster. (-: I have continued to plan trips and have enjoyed them. I am always planning my next trip - even now. You might not want to plan a trip, but you could plan a garden, a family celebration, a gift basket for the new grandbaby. . .
I do something fun each day. I have adult activity books: Dot to Dot, Coloring Book, and even a sticker book. I am just a kid a heart. I also might buy a little something like a flower or an ice cream. I'll watch a YouTube on how to draw Disney characters.
In closing, know you are not alone. I remember one day a few years ago that I just wanted to stay in bed. I made a choice to just stay in bed another day and then I made myself get up and get going. It is a balancing act and it will get easier.
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My Mom lost my Dad to liver cancer in November. They were married 56 years and he was her whole life. It has been heartbreaking watching her go through this. Thank you lucyanna for starting the thread - lots of good advice here that I will be using too. Absolutely no reason to apologize.
Angelrose's Journey--Click hereAngelrose’s Journey has to be one of the most touching threads I’ve ever followed. Most who’ve been here awhile are likely familiar with it. She shared her experience with the DIS beginning with her husband’s accident. It’s emotional but beautiful.