My daughter is about a year and a half out of college. She did gymnastics and cheerleading until she was about ten. She was good at it, but shy, and they put her in classes with older girls, and she didn’t like it, so she quit that to take guitar lessons. She told me not too long ago she wishes she never quit. At the time I encouraged her to stick with it (it was great exercise) but I didn’t want to force her. Now I wish I encouraged her more or found an alternative program or something. Hindsight is 20-20.
DS, her twin brother, played baseball from TBall through college. The benefits to him were tremendous in terms of not only exercise, but developing discipline, teamwork, leadership skills, and self-esteem (he’s shy, also), all things that have already helped in his career. He had an immediate set of friends when he got to college, and the camaraderie with his teammates and coaches will be something that stays with him forever. It wasn’t all rosy, and there were times he thought life might be easier if he gave it up, but he stuck with it, by choice, and I think he was the better for it.
Take what you will from that. If she’s been playing softball for a while it might be hard for her to see all the people she played with continue on without her. I got to see a lot of softball teams in both HS and college and they seemed to be having a lot of fun together. Today’s teams can be tough though, way more rigorous and competitive than when I played. Maybe dig a little deeper to see what it is that is stressing her out, and see if there is anything that can be done about it - if she enjoys playing in general. As a pp said, if she needs help with hitting or pitching, some short lessons (30 mins) can make a big difference. Is she playing a position that she enjoys? Does she like her teammates and coaches?
Good luck, I hope she can find something that she enjoys.