Question of the Day for June 14:
Don't worry, I won't bother you with a soccer specific question of the day! But soccer is a team sport, so let's talk about teams! Are you a team player in your life or in some aspects of it? Do you have a team that helps you with your healthy living or do you prefer to just do your own thing?
Well.... as a WW member and leader, I think I am definitely on the "WW team". And I have been a fairly active participant here on the WISH board challenges for over 8 years now without an official month off (although admittedly sometimes I am less active than I would like), so I believe I am a team player for "Team DIS-boards". And I'd like to think I'm a team player at my school.... I try hard to step in and step up and fill in whenever/where ever it is needed.... sorting mail, cleaning up trash, teaching, filing, running errands, covering lunch/recess duty, etc.
As far as the "home team" goes, I am definitely part of a team.... but sometimes I feel like it is a one-man team. I lost the majority of my weight while DH was just not at that healthy place in his life and I didn't lose BECAUSE of him or ALONG with him, but DESPITE him (and his daily stovetop popcorn and ice cream habits). Any time someone gives me the excuse of "I can't lose because xxxx has food in the house" or "I have to have the junk for my kids", I get frustrated. That is nothing but an excuse. Does it make it harder?? Yes.... but losing weight is HARD... eating out is HARD, food at work is HARD, holiday/vacation food temptations are HARD. Learn to deal with it, learn to work around it.... or you will never be fully successful. Even after DH's accident and his weight loss related to that and his progress after that, he is a solid ATKINS style eater (when he is on plan) and that is pretty different from the WW eating plan..... so our household is definitely a "house divided" when it comes to eating, meals, and food. I try VERY HARD to make it work AND to be supportive of his eating plan while not sabotaging my own plan. I try had to find new interesting recipes and low carb alternatives to things that I know DH craves (his cheats ALWAYS involve pizza, cinnamon rolls, and burgers and fries). I am forever tweaking recipes to reduce the carbs (for him) and the fats (for me) and still come up with something tasty that we can both eat.
Anyhow.... obviously that long rambly response tells me that you hit a nerve, at least with me (and not necessarily in a bad way). Having a TEAM to help with this is WONDERFUL... and I have credited "Team DIS-boards" with at least a portion of my ongoing success! Especially during the years when I was doing WW on my own at home (not attending meetings) and struggling with DH's unhealthy habits. I could always count on a group here to let me vent and to cheer for me when I was successful and lift me up when I struggled. The members of the group have changed over time (I'm thinking that
@donac and I may be the only original members still active), but the group MENTALITY hs remained strong!
I'd say I'm mostly a do your own thing kind of healthy living person. In the past, I've always joined WW when I was successful. I think it's a great program that really teaches you how to eat. But, the $$ part of it always gets in my way. I think it puts too much pressure on me...actually it doesn't put the pressure on me, I put it on myself. Even though DH and I earn a pretty good living and I can afford it, in the back of my mind I feel like if I don't lose every week, I'm wasting my money. I know it's completely silly and probably goes back to the not good enough to spend money of something for just me, but at this point, it's how it is.
So, this time, I'm trying to do it through MFP and even though I'm not breaking any losing records, I'm ok with it. Thursday will be 4 months since I started and I've lost 29.5 pounds. I hoped it would be more by now, but I'm happy with where I've gotten. We leave for vacation Thursday and will be gone for 2 weeks, so I know I won't lose a lot during that time, but I'm hoping that by this time next month, I'm back to where I am now. That will leave me a little leeway on our trip and time to get back in the swing of things when we return.
That is great progress.... don't be discouraged by it!! Just be sure you have a solid plan (date/time) of exactly WHEN you will be back on plan when you return. Have a wonderful vacation!!
I just saw this and it has some great points from the book State of Slim by Hill and Wyatt
Be active every day
There's no getting around it -- to stay lean, you must be consistently active, and there are certainly strategies that can increase your step count. Without regular movement, your metabolism becomes slow, sluggish, and inflexible. And an inflexible metabolism makes weight gain inevitable and lasting weight loss next to impossible.
2. Fuel up on real food
At restaurants and at home, the emphasis is on quality, not quantity. A healthy-size portion of a great-tasting dish is better than a huge serving of fare that's filled with refined carbohydrates, fat, and sodium -- even if that big portion costs less money.
3. Create your own healthy environment
It's our communities and immediate surroundings -- the plethora of parks, the bike paths in our neighborhoods, and our friendly walking groups -- that provide an important nudge for healthy living.
4. Stay true to your purpose
We all have an inner purpose (what we want to accomplish with our lives), but you may not have ever connected your purpose with weight-loss success. Consider this: Is the way you are living your life consistent with what you want to achieve?
5. Believe you can succeed
Your mental outlook can determine how effective you are in making permanent changes in your life. Instead of saying, "I'll believe it when I see it," Coloradans tend to have the mind-set that if you believe it, you will see it.
6. Make healthy living fun
We've seen other diet experts urge people to become vigilant about their diet and physical activity program, but Coloradans have taught us that this is a backward approach. Yes, people who succeed at weight loss and healthy living do spend a lot of time thinking about healthy eating and physical activity. Yet it's not from a place of anxiety or a desire to be "good." Rather, they relish and look forward to these things. The key to success is savoring this lifestyle and doing it in a way that brings you happiness rather than a feeling of hardship. We know this is possible, because we've seen it in our friends, neighbors, and colleagues and in people across the country who have succeeded in losing weight and keeping it off.
I love ALL of this! Thank you for sharing it! I'm going to go look up that book!
Hmmmm... I guess I'm a little bit of both. At work definitely its all about the team. In my personal life I go it alone most of the time, but I've also been really tuned in to finding "my tribe" and getting connected. As a matter of fact I was just talking to my doctor about this tribe... Disney+Healthy Living. My womens Glamping club is another tribe, and as already mentioned earlier today I'm currently searching for my wool tribe. I will say though that I really struggle with asking for and accepting help, which is a skill I need to develop as it is part of being in a team/tribe.
OOOoohhhh... I love the thought that we are a TRIBE!! That makes me feel like a bada*s !!
I'm very much a team player in most aspects of my life. The only thing I can think of where I'm not a team player might be my weight loss. My wife does help some, but I'm the only one that can be responsible for the decisions that I make and I can't blame my decisions on others (like I have in the past).
My extended family will talk the talk, but they really aren't "all in" on my weight loss journey. An example is last weekend we went out with my brother's family. At first they wanted to order pizza, which I fought. We ended up going to a newer place nearby which they had been to... all they had was crap bar food and pizza. The best thing on the menu for me was a turkey burger. So many restaurants have lighter options (and I brought up a number of them), but we had to go to one of the few that didn't. Plus, I hate going to places that don't have their nutritional info available somewhere!
I'm with you on all of that!! Sometimes you are just swimming against the current with other folks. I have been known to go out to eat with a group and order only a plain side salad because of a lack of healthy or trackable choices (our local Mac and Cheese restaurant comes to mind)... and then go home and eat an OP meal. Sure, it is a PITA, but I certainly felt SUCCESSFUL! I just try hard to not rub it in the face of others who are making a different choice. Good for you for making the best choice possible.
I am the team planner for our family of 5. From food to vacations I do it all. DH doesn't do one stitch of planning on anything. I started off good yesterday but then my youngest cat had been throwing up all day so I decided to take him to the vets after lunch and he didn't come home. Lot's of test and IV he spent the night so I gave in to my stress cravings. All day worrying about the poor little guy I didn't eat right. I picked him up tonight but he has to stay isolated until he recovers and make sure he is still heading towards healthy. I have decided to try a cheap version of the 21 day fix since I can't afford the real kit. Did a bunch of food prep for it and am going to start tomorrow. Fingers crossed my cat stays in recovery mode.
Are you married to my DH?? Anyhow.... prayers for your kitty! My own sweet kitty girl sends her love.....
I think participating in forums as this makes me team player as I get inspired by others, but also love trying to give some support back when needed.
I paid my flight to Orlando in October today. How devastating time for my happiest place on earth. The young lady that lost her life. 49 killed and many injured in such pointless, heartless and cruel attack and this little toddler from last night. My heart goes to all impacted. I know this is not the forum for it but as it's the forum I read daily I hope it's ok to share my heartbreak
I paid my flight off much earlier, on purpose today as it is place I love and I will go to this October.
I was just wondering whether I should post something as well. I absolutely agree with your sentiment how horrible it is for Orlando to be hit with one tragedy after another. Knowing people who live in Orlando makes it all the more real for myself. And I think many of us who have so many wonderful vacation memories from that city share those sentiments.
I think this is the PERFECT place to post your feelings about all that has happened in Orlando recently. For some people, stress about things like this happening in the world can definitely impact their mood and food choices. We all LOVE Disney which automatically relates to a love of Orlando and when something so REAL and tragic impacts our "happiest place on earth" we all feel it deep in our souls.
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Morning all! I'm fully into vacation mode now that school is out but my summer job hasn't started yet.... and despite having a to-do list of a BILLION things to get done before DS's graduation party next weekend, I'm sitting here on my butt cruising the Disboards, Facebook, and Pinterest. Time to get moving along!
Have a great day!.....................P