Where did I once say MY kid went to the prom? Thank you for incorrectly reading. My wife and I do have a teenager. She's 40 and I am 26. The kid is 15.
We live on the border with Canada where the legal drinking age is 19 so kids tend to go over there to drink. My DD 19 had never stated an interest until last Christmas when she asked if she could try wine. She tried it and didn't like it. My husband and I very seldom drink but it is in the house. My teen years were spent in Europe where we could drink without any problems at all. Teens also did not have driver's licenses and walked everywhere or took a bus. By the time I moved over here I was 24 and wasn't really bothered about drinking. If she wants a beer at home with us and is not driving, I would let here try it, or we could just go to Canada for dinner .
My DS is 22 and the only way either of these things would happen under our roof is over my dead body. I don't think it really matters where you live; parents need to think through the way they want to raise their own kids and set boundaries for their own homes even after their offspring become adults. "Legal" doesn't mean mandatory.
{{sigh}} Of course we do, and we don't harbor any illusions about being able to control the behavior of a grown adult - his choices are his own and he is well aware of where we stand. (He professes the same beliefs as we do, FWIW but at his stage in life that's 100% up to him.) If you want to get "really gross" I don't know if he's sexually active or not, nor do I feel the need to. I certainly never shared things like that with my own parents - more power to anybody who appreciates that sort of relationship with their kids.Not to be that annoying person, but only some provinces have 19 as the legal age limit. I live in a province wheee it’s 18.
So if your son has a girlfriend and she wanted to spend the night you’d say no way no how? I totally get your reasons for it and respect them, but I know you realize if they want to be..active..they can do it anywhere. Yes, morals and teachings are one thing but sometimes you get an itch and you just need it scratched.
I’m sorry if this is coming off as gross. It always sounds like it when we’re talking about kids, even those who are 22 or 18 (like my daughter is).
{{sigh}} Of course we do, and we don't harbor any illusions about being able to control the behavior of a grown adult - his choices are his own and he is well aware of where we stand. (He professes the same beliefs as we do, FWIW but at his stage in life that's 100% up to him.) If you want to get "really gross" I don't know if he's sexually active or not, nor do I feel the need to. I certainly never shared things like that with my own parents - more power to anybody who appreciates that sort of relationship with their kids.
We do unapologetically maintain the sanctity of our home though and mind-blowing as it may seem, no unmarried persons share a bed at our house. We've got the space to accommodate an unmarried couple separately and that's what we offer if the occasion arises. People of all worldviews are are very welcome and we've hosted a wide array of guests, all of whom willingly choose to respect our boundaries. Again, it's not about changing anything they do or don't do. It's strictly about living our own beliefs with integrity.
Yes, I have, I have also witnessed a few of them hungover after a night of partying (before and after reaching the legal drinking age). I don’t thing allowing underaged kids to consume alcohol at home prevents overindulging outside the home.
Totally. Not every jack-assed thing kids do is a backlash against stifling parents.Yeah, this. Alcohol has never been taboo in our house. I don't drink much, but if one of the older kids asks to taste what I have or join me in a toast on NYE or have a glass of wine with a nice dinner, I've never said no. But I don't think that insulates them from doing the dumb things teens sometimes do. A lot of underage drinking is more about the peer group and social pressures than about the actual alcohol, and it isn't as though a kid who is allowed the occasional drink at home has less desire to fit in than anyone else his/her age.
Dang. I'm having deja vu all over again.3/10
Or perhaps related to DanceswithDisney?Must be related to Diswis, the 23 year old in settings who is 17 in posts and wants to go to Disney as a minor because they have spring break in February (and April) and school is already out for the summer.
OP, you have lived a pretty full life here on the DIS; married to a much older woman, raising a 15 year old, having gastric sleeve surgery in Mexico, subtle political statements with your favorite book...
Love summer vacation, lol. So entertaining when the kids start posting thinking they are funny.
And on the off chance this is actually real, yes, we have always let the teens drink with us. And as stated above, taking the novelty out of drinking, they never had any desire to binge drink at parties. They were usually the DD for their friends.
I will take my popcorn light butter, extra salt.