Thought a new thread should be started for this one. Another thread veered off topic.
Thumpersfriend brought up an issue of taking an autistic child to Disney and what would be an appropriate age.
I replied that we waited until our son is 7 years old. This summer will be his first Disney trip.
We put off a Disney vacation as we thought it would be too much for him. Unfamiliar place, excessive stimuli, etc. Now that he is a bit older he has learned how to cope with some of his issues and, as parents, we have learned MUCH about how to help him.
Our 7 yo is developmentally delayed and developmentally is very much like a 4 year old.
I don't want to suggest that 7 years old is the age that everyone should use to determine when a trip to Disney is appropriate. Just happens to be what we think (we'll find out in August--I'll post and let you know). All kids will autism are different. It is a spectrum disorder, so some are more severely affected than others. Also, not all autistic children have the same characteristics. Some may hate to be touched, while others crave it. Some may not be able to tolerate loud noises, while others it does not bother.
It is completely a judgement call...one based on what the child can handle. You may also be able to tailor the trip to meet her needs.
I think one of the hardest things for me as a parent and I still can't get it through my head is that what I think will make my DS happy because it makes other kids happy is not always the case. I think sometimes I am a bit selfish in that I want to see that happiness so much that I push it. When go ahead with what I have planned, I am disappointed. I fear that about this trip to Disney. My best example of this is Christmas. I want DS to LOVE it. I want him to enjoy the decorations and music. I want to see his face light up on Christmas morning when he sees a surprise gift. I realize now that all that is about ME not him. Christmas is one of the worst times of the year for him. The different surroundings, noises, smells are unpleasant. He likes sameness. MY son (remember all kids are different) doesn't care about gifts. He will want one thing and once he gets that, he leaves and goes to his room. I always feel sad. His older brother is tearing through his gifts with ooh's and aah's and here sits a pile of unwrapped presents. I have to remember he wants to go to his room because he is overloaded and needs an escape. Off track a little (a lot) about Disney, but it is the best way I can explain that her enjoyment may be different than yours or your expectation.
I am sure with time, you will learn a lot about what your grandchild likes and disliikes. Then, you can decide when and if a Disney trip is appropriate.
I know this has been a downer post, but it is just reality. It is hard to hear this stuff when you first get a diagnosis. I'm sorry if I what I wrote is upsetting. With time and support, you will understand.
Sorry for so long. Mainly wanted to clarify the 7 year old thing. I'd love to hear of others who have taken an autistic child to Disney.
Thumpersfriend brought up an issue of taking an autistic child to Disney and what would be an appropriate age.
I replied that we waited until our son is 7 years old. This summer will be his first Disney trip.
We put off a Disney vacation as we thought it would be too much for him. Unfamiliar place, excessive stimuli, etc. Now that he is a bit older he has learned how to cope with some of his issues and, as parents, we have learned MUCH about how to help him.
Our 7 yo is developmentally delayed and developmentally is very much like a 4 year old.
I don't want to suggest that 7 years old is the age that everyone should use to determine when a trip to Disney is appropriate. Just happens to be what we think (we'll find out in August--I'll post and let you know). All kids will autism are different. It is a spectrum disorder, so some are more severely affected than others. Also, not all autistic children have the same characteristics. Some may hate to be touched, while others crave it. Some may not be able to tolerate loud noises, while others it does not bother.
It is completely a judgement call...one based on what the child can handle. You may also be able to tailor the trip to meet her needs.
I think one of the hardest things for me as a parent and I still can't get it through my head is that what I think will make my DS happy because it makes other kids happy is not always the case. I think sometimes I am a bit selfish in that I want to see that happiness so much that I push it. When go ahead with what I have planned, I am disappointed. I fear that about this trip to Disney. My best example of this is Christmas. I want DS to LOVE it. I want him to enjoy the decorations and music. I want to see his face light up on Christmas morning when he sees a surprise gift. I realize now that all that is about ME not him. Christmas is one of the worst times of the year for him. The different surroundings, noises, smells are unpleasant. He likes sameness. MY son (remember all kids are different) doesn't care about gifts. He will want one thing and once he gets that, he leaves and goes to his room. I always feel sad. His older brother is tearing through his gifts with ooh's and aah's and here sits a pile of unwrapped presents. I have to remember he wants to go to his room because he is overloaded and needs an escape. Off track a little (a lot) about Disney, but it is the best way I can explain that her enjoyment may be different than yours or your expectation.
I am sure with time, you will learn a lot about what your grandchild likes and disliikes. Then, you can decide when and if a Disney trip is appropriate.
I know this has been a downer post, but it is just reality. It is hard to hear this stuff when you first get a diagnosis. I'm sorry if I what I wrote is upsetting. With time and support, you will understand.
Sorry for so long. Mainly wanted to clarify the 7 year old thing. I'd love to hear of others who have taken an autistic child to Disney.