Thank you all very much. This is an especially difficult time and I needed to reach out. I did not know where to post so I put it here.
This morning we went to the crematorium and made all of the final arrangements. My wife, Nancy, has done so much. She has reached out to all family and friends, including my Mom's extensive address book (my Mom's little beige book that contains a lifetime of relationships -- all hand written) and supporting me while at the same time dealing with a pain exacerbation brought on by all of the recent events.