Good for you. I think we’ll be ok. The kids have daily chores. These chores weren’t randomly sprung on them. In fact, they are written on a board clear as day should they have a memory lapse. They simply neglected to do them for days, thinking there was no consequence. Well, there are.Nope. Trips and family time are fleeting. By next week, they'll be grown and the house will be quiet and clean all of the time.
I call no fair in springing a trip today and cleaning expectations today on them without warning.
We coached our kids and encouraged. Not bribed and took away.
And they are fine, upstanding young adults.
No, IMO cancelling a trip because your kids are not listening to you is overkill. The punishment DOES NOT fit the crime.
My DD has used the POOP excuse before! Kids!You can't believe how often these kids develop the need to POOP as soon we ask them to do their chores.
Apparently not all of us, but rest assured many of us have come to a point with our kids where we have to get honest with ourselves. For whatever reason, we've let the requirement that they obey us (whether it's chores or anything else) slide a little over time until it becomes apparent they feel at liberty to not do what they're asked. Drawing a line is never easy and depending on your kids, they may test you again soon. Reestablishing who's boss (yes, I said it) will be of benefit to all of you. You're doing great! I hope you have a good weekend and enjoy your October trip.Good for you. I think we’ll be ok. The kids have daily chores. These chores weren’t randomly sprung on them. In fact, they are written on a board clear as day should they have a memory lapse. They simply neglected to do them for days, thinking there was no consequence. Well, there are.
They finished their chores and we are at the lake for the evening. They aren’t going out robbing any banks.
This is so true. No use getting offended at "parenting experts" obtusely deny it - it's actually more laughable than anything. I also snicker at the posts that clutch pearls at the idea of anything, anything - getting in the way of a Disney trip.I think it’s awesome to coach & encourage your kids. But I also think any parent would agree that every child is different and requires different types of discipline depending on the kid. Maturity, energy level, and personality all play a big part in behavior. What works for one child does not work for all children. DH and I will talk about the other parents we know and discuss whether their tactics are something we would do... and we always end the conversation with “but who am I to judge?”
This makes me rethink my first response. For US vacations are a big deal, and we only do one big one a year.For us, it's just a few hours on I-75, no big deal. We go several times per year. They aren't missing the trip of a lifetime or anything. We hadn't even booked anything yet. We'll be back in October. This was just a one off. Sucks for me because now I get to "help" someone move tomorrow instead. Kids have to learn they have obligations, in my opinion.
I think punishment should match the crime, and neglecting chores, even for a few days doesn’t warrant that punishment IMO. I support your decision to do so however... But you asked for opinions and that’s mine. Happy cleaning!Good for you. I think we’ll be ok. The kids have daily chores. These chores weren’t randomly sprung on them. In fact, they are written on a board clear as day should they have a memory lapse. They simply neglected to do them for days, thinking there was no consequence. Well, there are.
They finished their chores and we are at the lake for the evening. They aren’t going out robbing any banks.
Apparently not all of us, but rest assured many of us have come to a point with our kids where we have to get honest with ourselves. For whatever reason, we've let the requirement that they obey us (whether it's chores or anything else) slide a little over time until it becomes apparent they feel at liberty to not do what they're asked. Drawing a line is never easy and depending on your kids, they may test you again soon. Reestablishing who's boss (yes, I said it) will be of benefit to all of you. You're doing great! I hope you have a good weekend and enjoy your October trip.
This is so true. No use getting offended at "parenting experts" obtusely deny it - it's actually more laughable than anything. I also snicker at the posts that clutch pearls at the idea of anything, anything - getting in the way of a Disney trip.
Well..admitting the problem IS the first step....or something to that effect, lol!Yep. According to these boards I am a horrible mom because I only took my daughter to Disney ONCE!!!!
I feel ashamed even writing that out.
How dare you!! lolYep. According to these boards I am a horrible mom because I only took my daughter to Disney ONCE!!!!
I feel ashamed even writing that out.
Ever canceled a trip because kids didn't earn it?
My kids have only been to Disney (World) once and so have I.Yep. According to these boards I am a horrible mom because I only took my daughter to Disney ONCE!!!!
My DD has used the POOP excuse before! Kids!
Well you are obviously spoiling them by taking them to Disney World too often.For us, it's just a few hours on I-75, no big deal. We go several times per year. They aren't missing the trip of a lifetime or anything. We hadn't even booked anything yet. We'll be back in October. This was just a one off. Sucks for me because now I get to "help" someone move tomorrow instead. Kids have to learn they have obligations, in my opinion.
I did not cancel a Disney trip since none of my children went to Disney anywhere until the youngest was somewhere around 12.Dang, did you really cancel a Dis. trip or hypothetical? No chance to redeem? We're going to be new parents and suddenly these sort of topics are interesting to me. I guess canceling a multi day trip if you live out of state and flying in vs. locals on APs would have a different impact (we'd be the former).