Is anything really going to change because you cancelled your trip? Ok, so you cleaned out the garage this weekend. Are the kids all of a sudden going to be neater around the house and whatnot? IME, probably not. So you missed your trip and nothing changed. Seems like a high price to pay without much of a payoff.
At the same time, I agree that threats should be seen through. I just don’t place something that’s so important to me and to the family unit in the line of fire where we’re all going to lose out as a family. A trip, to me, is very special family bonding time.
But, to each his own. I know everyone sees this differently. But honestly the biggest problem I ever had w my kids were some of these housekeeping issues, and once in a while grades w DS, and I counted my blessings that that’s all there was. Today they are both seniors in college and out in the working world already, as well as good people, so I don’t think we were too far off course. (And neither is as neat as I am around the house, nor is DH, so I’m glad I didn’t spend a lot of time giving up trips for that.)