ronandannette
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- Joined
- May 4, 2006
I guess it depends how you were raised. Of course my parents bought me gifts and we give gifts to our kids but in my family my grandparents were very loved and honoured by their children and me and my cousins. When we shopped for Christmas I was always involved in picking out their gifts, and something for my parents too. Choosing and wrapping something special, then waiting in anticipation while it was opened was an exciting part of my Christmas routine. As soon as I was old enough to have my own resources I did my own Christmas shopping and not buying for my parents and grandparents would never have crossed my mind.Never in my teens/adulthood have I ever bought a gift for grandparents, aunts, uncles, or cousins. Some of those people got gifts from me when I was very young — IOW, my mother picked out some trinket on my behalf and said “This is going to be your birthday gift to your grandfather, okay?” — but that didn’t last past the mid-elementary years. The gifting practices I’m familiar with tend to have gifts that flow down through the generations, not up. We sent my in-laws a Christmas gift from our three year old for the first time this year, just a little craft project he made for them. I expect he’ll continue to send them Christmas gifts for only as long as he can get away with smearing paint and gluing random objects to paper and having people think it’s cute, which probably means it will stop long before college.
We raised our own DS similarly. Sadly for him, as a young adult all of his grandparents are gone now; I’m sure he’d love to be able to buy them a Christmas gift. He does buy, wrap and give us gifts, which we know are genuine acts of love and I imagine he’ll pass the same practises along to his family when he has one.