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What’s an “apology” ring?Four years ago I was very impatiently waiting for the then BF to give me an apology ring he had purchased in November. It is a gorgeous ring that I had personally picked out (a whole other story). I thought for sure he would give it to me for Christmas. He was leaving the country for the holiday and left a large gift bag with gifts for everyone (Me and the kids). I waited till Christmas morning To open my gift. I got an electric skillet.
I did finally get the ring. In Feburary. ,
PP, regift it back to her. Keep it going.
They would probably be relieved, not hurt. They need to be more straight forward that they don't want to exchange.No, but more so what wasn't given.
Every year, we join my brother's family for Christmas. His kids are all grown with kids of their own, but mine are 20 years younger. Every year, we purchase gifts for the children in the family. Every child gets a present from us, every year for over 18+ years. However, one of his 4 kid's (my kids cousins) seems to always exclude my children from his gift-giving. It's not that they don't give presents or didn't have enough money, it's just that he seems to specifically exclude my children. Never mind that we always purchase his children presents. I've thought about excluding their family one year to make a statement, but could never bring myself to be so hurtful.
This! Usually I am just thankful that someone took the time to give me a gift. But some people enjoy going out of their way to make sure that you know they did not mean well.I think context and individual personality really matter. Sometimes you know the person probably meant well and sometimes you just know that they didn't.
There are times when I would much rather have received nothing at all. My MIL often gave me nothing, deliberately, then gave DH extra gifts and extra cards while claiming that everything was just so cute that she couldn't decide what to get, so she decided to give him everything! Then, she would look me straight in the eye and say, "SO, where's MY gift?" (And we always had a nice gift for her, nicely wrapped, and from a nice store.) One year she gave me an opened shipping box with my SIL's writing on it. Apparently, she didn't like SIL's gift to her because the items were inside, unwrapped. And to cap it off, the box also contained some used, dirty tissues -- MIL must have had a cold and used the opened box as a waste basket. DH was so angry that he didn't speak to her for weeks after that. Was this a gift no matter what? I don't think so.No. A gift is gift no matter what. It would be worse if I received nothing at all. Maybe it’s because I had a mother who never liked any gift...even if she asked for it specifically.
This! Usually I am just thankful that someone took the time to give me a gift. But some people enjoy going out of their way to make sure that you know they did not mean well.
There are times when I would much rather have received nothing at all. My MIL often gave me nothing, deliberately, then gave DH extra gifts and extra cards while claiming that everything was just so cute that she couldn't decide what to get, so she decided to give him everything! Then, she would look me straight in the eye and say, "SO, where's MY gift?" (And we always had a nice gift for her, nicely wrapped, and from a nice store.) One year she gave me an opened shipping box with my SIL's writing on it. Apparently, she didn't like SIL's gift to her because the items were inside, unwrapped. And to cap it off, the box also contained some used, dirty tissues -- MIL must have had a cold and used the opened box as a waste basket. DH was so angry that he didn't speak to her for weeks after that. Was this a gift no matter what? I don't think so.
I think she wanted to start WWIII and was rather disappointed when that didn't happen. We kept giving her nice gifts for all the appropriate occasions, and she kept trying to start fights. Oh well...Yikes! And yuck! I don’t think I could ever open another “gift” from her after that!
He used some pretty bad judgment. To apologize I decided he needed to hurt his wallet.What’s an “apology” ring?
With that attitude best thing he could have done was run.He used some pretty bad judgment. To apologize I decided he needed to hurt his wallet.
Seriously. I have nothing nice to say about itWith that attitude best thing he could have done was run.
I think it was good for him to wait until another time for that ring. That wouldn’t be a good Christmas gift.He used some pretty bad judgment. To apologize I decided he needed to hurt his wallet.
I have two large garbage bags in my basement full of these, and a garbage can full of AA batteries. My FIL was a surgical nurse for 30 years. They would have to put batteries in the machines to wheel the patient from pre-op into the OR, they got used for two or three minutes and then had to be thrown out. He started grabbing these at the end of the day along with the surgical sponges. I use the sponges for anything that requires more structure than a paper towel but want to throw away after I'm done. For the 12 years I've been part of the family every gift giving occasion includes some AA batteries and surgical sponges. In addition to thoughtful and useful gifts.My mom retired in 1985, and when she passed away in 2013 and we cleaned out her house we found another mammary implant box (filled with extra kitchen counter tiles) and dozens of surgical sponges... which my mom called "blood soppers" that we kept. They are basically just cloth towels, but once they opened the sterile package, they had to be tossed out if not used. They make great towels to wash the cars with. And they have a little strip on them so that if one accidentally gets left in a patient, the strip shows up on xrays.
I forgot about the cauterizers my mom used to bring home. Once the sterile seal was broken, they had to be tossed. She brought those home, broke the plastic case open, and 2 AA batteries inside. And let's not forget IV tubing. When a bush or tree needed to be tied up, IV tubing was perfect.I have two large garbage bags in my basement full of these, and a garbage can full of AA batteries. My FIL was a surgical nurse for 30 years. They would have to put batteries in the machines to wheel the patient from pre-op into the OR, they got used for two or three minutes and then had to be thrown out. He started grabbing these at the end of the day along with the surgical sponges. I use the sponges for anything that requires more structure than a paper towel but want to throw away after I'm done. For the 12 years I've been part of the family every gift giving occasion includes some AA batteries and surgical sponges. In addition to thoughtful and useful gifts.