Cute ways to ask someone to a dance?

[meliss8599]

So this is all new to me. When I was in high school, the boy or girl just asked the other if they wanted to go to homecoming, prom, girl's choice (Sadie Hawkins/turnabout), and that was that.

Now, I guess the kids come up with creative ways to ask each other and DD needs a creative way to ask the guy she likes to turnabout. What ideas have you seen, done, or heard of?

I've seen, "Of all the fish in the SEA, will you go to girl's choice with ME?" and you decorate the poster with Swedish fish or goldfish crackers, but I know the DIS would help me help her come up with something super cute and creative.

 

[Bluestars]

Last year for prom my son took the girl out to a restaurant and arranged for the waiter to bring something out after the meal that had an invitation to the prom on it.

Some of his friends have done things like used glass chalk to write a invitation on the girl's car or arranged items in the driveway in the shape of words as an invitation. I can't remember any other ways the boys did it, but I know they all asked the girls in creative ways. It's a big thing where I live. It seems a bit silly, but I guess it means a lot to the girls and is something they will always remember.

A friend of mine has a daughter who was asked after the boy got her permission and put a bunch of balloons in her daughter's room with a poster asking her daughter to prom.

I didn't know that girls did the same thing.

 

[minkydog]

Wow! I'm really out of the loop. Neither of my kids did this and neither did their friends. Heck, when I was I HS we were lucky if a guy did more than punch us in the arm and grunt, "You don't want to go to homecoming, do you?"

 

[Happy Snowman]

Freshman year most of the girls did something cute, then after that they just asked. Our DD did a Build-a-Bear and recorded a message asking the boy to the dance and they put that into the bear.

 

[jdb in AZ]

Make a poster for the invite, forming some of the words with candy bars. Like Big Hunk, Snickers, $100,000 bar -- the list is limited only by your imagination (or the variety of candy available.) She can also cut/paste words using fun font styles from magazine ads.

When DD was in high school, Costco sold humongous bags of popped corn. She took two bags full (yes, sir, yes sir, two bags full) and put the invite on the floor of his shower stall, then emptied the popcorn on top. He had to dig through the popcorn to find the invite. His mom was a very persnickety housekeeper, but she was a friend of mine and liked DD so she went along with it.

 

[lam0037]

For sorority formals, girls typically ask guys in cute ways. The most common is with a cookie cake or cupcake, but I've seen others. I carved a pumpkin and wrote a cute message on a poster (our formal was a couple days before Halloween)

I've known girls who have done the fish in the sea thing but bought a beta fish for the guy. Balloons in his room. Scavenger hints that lead to a note or the girl. Putting an invitation on a big sheet and hanging it outside an was waiting with cookies. I put "formal?" On the tops if a six pack of beer but can be done with coke or root beer bottles.

In high school, I was asked to homecoming/prom with a magic trick where the card had something about him asking me on it, a word scramble like in newspapers. And then senior prom my boyfriend left a stuffed animal with balloons tied to it and a note saying to pop the balloons. When I did there was a note that I had to put together saying will you go to prom with me.

I know people who got their date zaxbys or Starbucks or chickfila and put in on their car with a cute saying.

With guys, I definitely think food is the way to go. Not going to lie. I would have said yes to anyone who asked me with chicken fingers

 

[Luv Bunnies]

It's weird how it's become a whole thing now! DS16 and his girlfriend had already discussed going to the homecoming dance together, but then he said he had to officially "ask" her in a creative and public way. He said it's "expected" by the girl and her friends. His GF is a competitive softball player, and she is also a sound tech for the school's drama department (DS is an actor). Their mutual friends are all drama kids, so he decided to "ask" her at a cast party after their last show. He wrote "Homecoming?" on a softball and tossed it to her when he got to the party. His friend was holding a bouquet of purple flowers behind his back, which he quickly handed to DS while the GF was looking at the softball. When she looked up, he held out the flowers. Of course, he was busy with show rehearsals and performances that week so guess who got to shop for the softball and the flowers?

I've seen other kids write their invitations with soap in car windows, cover cars in post-it notes, put signs on lockers, etc. During prom season last year, there was entire week when I picked up DS and saw girls walking out of school with flower, balloons, and big stuffed animals. A friend's DD woke up one morning to a display on their front porch. The boy wrote "Prom?" in chalk and surrounded it by rose petals arranged in a heart. He also left a box containing a two stuffed bears dressed in prom clothes.

It's all very cute, but what happened to the days of saying, "So, do you want to go to the dance with me?"

 

[LBIJim]

It's weird how it's become a whole thing now! DS16 and his girlfriend had already discussed going to the homecoming dance together, but then he said he had to officially "ask" her in a creative and public way. He said it's "expected" by the girl and her friends. His GF is a competitive softball player, and she is also a sound tech for the school's drama department (DS is an actor). Their mutual friends are all drama kids, so he decided to "ask" her at a cast party after their last show. He wrote "Homecoming?" on a softball and tossed it to her when he got to the party. His friend was holding a bouquet of purple flowers behind his back, which he quickly handed to DS while the GF was looking at the softball. When she looked up, he held out the flowers. Of course, he was busy with show rehearsals and performances that week so guess who got to shop for the softball and the flowers?

I've seen other kids write their invitations with soap in car windows, cover cars in post-it notes, put signs on lockers, etc. During prom season last year, there was entire week when I picked up DS and saw girls walking out of school with flower, balloons, and big stuffed animals. A friend's DD woke up one morning to a display on their front porch. The boy wrote "Prom?" in chalk and surrounded it by rose petals arranged in a heart. He also left a box containing a two stuffed bears dressed in prom clothes.

It's all very cute, but what happened to the days of saying, "So, do you want to go to the dance with me?"

I know....it seems "creative" and sometimes expensive methods are not only expected these days, but required. Even when my girls were in HS 10 years ago and less, such things were unheard of.

I'm glad things like this weren't the norm in the Stone Age, or else I'd never get a date to the dance.

 

[LBIJim]

Wow! I'm really out of the loop. Neither of my kids did this and neither did their friends. Heck, when I was I HS we were lucky if a guy did more than punch us in the arm and grunt, "You don't want to go to homecoming, do you?"

Hey, they guys you dated stole my move...

 

[tink_lover]

I find it ridiculous. There is enough pressure on kids without dealing with finding a creative way to ask for a dance. The other thing is you know (and previous poster confirmed), usually the boys mom is involved, and that just adds another layer of pressure. I (sorta jokingly) told dd she couldn't go unless a boy just simply asked her. She recently got an actual phone call from one, where he asked her to the dance. Refreshingly simple. She was thrilled.

 

[ronandannette]

It's weird how it's become a whole thing now! DS16 and his girlfriend had already discussed going to the homecoming dance together, but then he said he had to officially "ask" her in a creative and public way. He said it's "expected" by the girl and her friends. His GF is a competitive softball player, and she is also a sound tech for the school's drama department (DS is an actor). Their mutual friends are all drama kids, so he decided to "ask" her at a cast party after their last show. He wrote "Homecoming?" on a softball and tossed it to her when he got to the party. His friend was holding a bouquet of purple flowers behind his back, which he quickly handed to DS while the GF was looking at the softball. When she looked up, he held out the flowers. Of course, he was busy with show rehearsals and performances that week so guess who got to shop for the softball and the flowers?

I've seen other kids write their invitations with soap in car windows, cover cars in post-it notes, put signs on lockers, etc. During prom season last year, there was entire week when I picked up DS and saw girls walking out of school with flower, balloons, and big stuffed animals. A friend's DD woke up one morning to a display on their front porch. The boy wrote "Prom?" in chalk and surrounded it by rose petals arranged in a heart. He also left a box containing a two stuffed bears dressed in prom clothes.

It's all very cute, but what happened to the days of saying, "So, do you want to go to the dance with me?"

Oh, it's a total "thing" - it's even got a name: PROM-POSAL. I'm sure TLC will be making shows about it shortly...

 

[mjkacmom]

I find it ridiculous. There is enough pressure on kids without dealing with finding a creative way to ask for a dance. The other thing is you know (and previous poster confirmed), usually the boys mom is involved, and that just adds another layer of pressure. I (sorta jokingly) told dd she couldn't go unless a boy just simply asked her. She recently got an actual phone call from one, where he asked her to the dance. Refreshingly simple. She was thrilled.

While ridiculous, it's the kids who invented this! Ds16 asked a girl to the formal with some kind of necklace (I didn't even know until after), and dd18 just got a promposal with a Chipolte burrito bowl (her boyfriends friend who is still in HS - she just wants to go to prom for the third year in a row).

It's really rare for the guy's mom to be involved!

 

[asta]

We have a sad, funny dance asking story. My daughter woke up one morning with a sign in the front of the house reading "Prom?". She was anxiously waiting for someone, anyone to ask her and got all excited. I quickly realized that a young man was asking the girl five doors up by placing signs in a series of houses so that the girl would see it as she drove to school.

My daughter was eventually asked to prom but the sign thing seemed kind of cruel at the time.

 

[minkydog]

We have a sad, funny dance asking story. My daughter woke up one morning with a sign in the front of the house reading "Prom?". She was anxiously waiting for someone, anyone to ask her and got all excited. I quickly realized that a young man was asking the girl five doors up by placing signs in a series of houses so that the girl would see it as she drove to school.

My daughter was eventually asked to prom but the sign thing seemed kind of cruel at the time.

Ouch! He didn't think that through, did he? I'm glad your DD got a legitimate prom invite.

I know the kids--or more specifically, the girls--are driving this but it seems so over-the-top. I mean, its sweet and all, but what happens if they go to all this enormous public effort only to hear "No"? What's wrong with politely asking for a date in a non-public, face-saving way?

No wonder guys feel so much pressure to make the "right" marriage proposal. They keep having to up the ante starting from 6th grade.

 

[Mizzoufan]

This sounds like more pressure then just straight out asking.

 

[mom2rtk]

I think it has the potential to be cute if it comes from the heart and it's something the kids involved want to do.

But I'm a little put off by parents getting involved. I'm really hoping this is a regional thing and not something my daughter will experience when she gets to high school.

 

[meliss8599]

I so agree with a lot of the PPs that it seems a little ridiculous, but it's what they do now and it's safe, harmless fun so we have to as Dory says, "Go with the flow!"

 

[Wendy31]

This reminds me of homecoming my senior year!!

When I was in high school, there were no big "to do's" when asking someone to homecoming or the prom (in my case, the Junior/Senior Banquet instead of "prom"). It wasn't made into an "event" or anything - more like "Hey, would you go w/ me to Homecoming/Prom/Whatever?"

However, I did write a catchy little poem to ask a guy in my class to escort me to homecoming our senior year. After cheerleading practice one afternoon, I left it taped to the window of his car, knowing he'd find it when he was done w/ basketball practice.

At the time, he was just a really close friend who I secretly really liked. Now, he's my DH.

Anyway, my "poem" -

Roses are red,
And you're pretty tall.
Would you please escort me
To the Homecoming Ball?

He left the following response on my books the next day -

Roses are red,
Violets are blue.
To not escort you,
I'd have to be touched in the head.

Destiny, I tell you.

 

[maleficent32]

I so agree with a lot of the PPs that it seems a little ridiculous, but it's what they do now and it's safe, harmless fun so we have to as Dory says, "Go with the flow!"

 

[lan3]

I came home from work and some girl wrote "will you go to prom with me?" with colored chalk on my neighbor's driveway. I thought it was cute and nervy. I had no idea it was common.