I don't mean to seem ungrateful.
I guess, I just wish more effort was put into my present, that's all. If he would have went out and got me $25 worth of gifts, but each gift had a designated reason and purpose to it, I would be over the moon. Two years ago, he got my mom a sweatshirt that was not on her list, but he saw it and "thought of her." To me, that is just the best kind of gift.
To lighten things up here's my bad gift exchange gift turned good story
We do an adult grab bag type gift exchange. You know everyone brings a gift up to a certain price point, you draw numbers then pick a gift etc. again this was for the adults (anyone over 18 in our family ) I end up with a set of two nerf guns. No nothing got mixed up, my 23 yr old brother put 2 nerf guns in the gift exchange. I figured I would give them to the kids or save them for last minute birthday parties or something. Well the DH and I have ended up having multiple nerf gun fights this week when the kids weren't home. It's been really a silly fun thing and has had us rolling on the floor laughing!! I have found nerf darts in the weirdest places and it makes me laugh every time. So what I thought was really lame turned into a fun game for DH and I. I'm thinking these will not be for kid use and only for DH and I lol
He got you something that was ON YOUR LIST and you are complaining about the lack of effort? If someone gives me a list with specific items, then I will get them what's on it. That's kind of the point of gift lists.
If I ever got wind of someone complaining I didn't spend enough, especially when they got something they asked for, that would be the last thing they got.
Good lord, whatever happened to gratitude?
To me an exchange with a $50 limit means a person shouldn't spend more than $50, not that they have to spend $50. (which IMO seems like an awfully high $ amount when considering not everyone has the same type of budget). Sorry OP, I vote for silly and unreasonable, you got a gift that was on your list. Being upset because you could have gotten more, well I cant say what I think that really is without racking up some points
To lighten things up here's my bad gift exchange gift turned good story
We do an adult grab bag type gift exchange. You know everyone brings a gift up to a certain price point, you draw numbers then pick a gift etc. again this was for the adults (anyone over 18 in our family ) I end up with a set of two nerf guns. No nothing got mixed up, my 23 yr old brother put 2 nerf guns in the gift exchange. I figured I would give them to the kids or save them for last minute birthday parties or something. Well the DH and I have ended up having multiple nerf gun fights this week when the kids weren't home. It's been really a silly fun thing and has had us rolling on the floor laughing!! I have found nerf darts in the weirdest places and it makes me laugh every time. So what I thought was really lame turned into a fun game for DH and I. I'm thinking these will not be for kid use and only for DH and I lol
I think you have unrealistic expectations for a family gift exchange.I don't mean to seem ungrateful.
I guess, I just wish more effort was put into my present, that's all. If he would have went out and got me $25 worth of gifts, but each gift had a designated reason and purpose to it, I would be over the moon. Two years ago, he got my mom a sweatshirt that was not on her list, but he saw it and "thought of her." To me, that is just the best kind of gift.
I am grateful for the present, I really am, but I still wonder if he spent less or just didn't start shopping till the day before. I am an awful person.
Our family did a Secret Santa gift exchange this year. The limit was $50.
I would first and foremost say, I love giving gifts. The most exciting part of Christmas to me is giving gifts. I also am not super greedy about receiving gifts. It is the thought that counts. For example, in the work gift exchange this year, I was given a USED kitchen gadget. New, it was worth our designated amount, but it was used. I like the gadget, and plan to keep it, but the idea that my co-worker put no thought into my gift and gave me something that was sitting around her kitchen bothers me.
Back to the family gift exchange. They had a Christmas list for me. For my Aunt, I bought a kitchen device worth $50, but I got it at a discounted price, so I bought a couple of little extra things too. I felt that was the right thing to do. Yes, I could have just bought the one thing, and it would have fulfilled the $50 expectation, but for me, it just means more to go above and beyond that.
When it came to my present, I received only one gift, which was fine. It was a Dvd. Full price, it is worth about $50, but it is never the full price. On Black Friday, it was $9.99. You can get it on Amazon for $30 regularly, sometimes less. At Best Buy, right now, it is $15. I feel a little jipped. I feel as if my cousin would have planned, he would have been able to get the DVD for much less than the $50, plus some other things on my list. Or, maybe he did not do the shopping until last minute and just walked into a store and bought it at full price. I am not saying he didn't spend the full $50.....he very well may have. I guess I am just hurt, because like I said, it's the thought that counts, and had it been me, I would have gotten the Dvd at the lowest price possible so that I could get other things for my recipient. Either he spent less than $50 or he just didn't even try to get the most out of his $50 that he could have.
Am I being silly or unreasonable?
It gets even worse the more you post.I don't mean to seem ungrateful.
I guess, I just wish more effort was put into my present, that's all. If he would have went out and got me $25 worth of gifts, but each gift had a designated reason and purpose to it, I would be over the moon. Two years ago, he got my mom a sweatshirt that was not on her list, but he saw it and "thought of her." To me, that is just the best kind of gift.
The thing is, his parents are just like you and me when it comes to shopping. They go through ads on a weekly basis, if not more often. They scour the internet for deals. Everyone else in my family and everyone else in their family got lots of gifts during the exchange because everyone really tried. Everyone maximized their budget, and in some cases, probably exceeded their budget by a smidgen. (I went $3 over)
I am grateful for the present, I really am, but I still wonder if he spent less or just didn't start shopping till the day before. I am an awful person.
He got you something that was ON YOUR LIST and you are complaining about the lack of effort? If someone gives me a list with specific items, then I will get them what's on it. That's kind of the point of gift lists.
If I ever got wind of someone complaining I didn't spend enough, especially when they got something they asked for, that would be the last thing they got.
Good lord, whatever happened to gratitude?
beaucoup said:I sent my very serious husband several LARGE water guns when he was deployed in Afghanistan last year.
Our family did a Secret Santa gift exchange this year. The limit was $50.
I would first and foremost say, I love giving gifts. The most exciting part of Christmas to me is giving gifts. I also am not super greedy about receiving gifts. It is the thought that counts. For example, in the work gift exchange this year, I was given a USED kitchen gadget. New, it was worth our designated amount, but it was used. I like the gadget, and plan to keep it, but the idea that my co-worker put no thought into my gift and gave me something that was sitting around her kitchen bothers me.
Back to the family gift exchange. They had a Christmas list for me. For my Aunt, I bought a kitchen device worth $50, but I got it at a discounted price, so I bought a couple of little extra things too. I felt that was the right thing to do. Yes, I could have just bought the one thing, and it would have fulfilled the $50 expectation, but for me, it just means more to go above and beyond that.
When it came to my present, I received only one gift, which was fine. It was a Dvd. Full price, it is worth about $50, but it is never the full price. On Black Friday, it was $9.99. You can get it on Amazon for $30 regularly, sometimes less. At Best Buy, right now, it is $15. I feel a little jipped. I feel as if my cousin would have planned, he would have been able to get the DVD for much less than the $50, plus some other things on my list. Or, maybe he did not do the shopping until last minute and just walked into a store and bought it at full price. I am not saying he didn't spend the full $50.....he very well may have. I guess I am just hurt, because like I said, it's the thought that counts, and had it been me, I would have gotten the Dvd at the lowest price possible so that I could get other things for my recipient. Either he spent less than $50 or he just didn't even try to get the most out of his $50 that he could have.
Am I being silly or unreasonable?
To lighten things up here's my bad gift exchange gift turned good story
We do an adult grab bag type gift exchange. You know everyone brings a gift up to a certain price point, you draw numbers then pick a gift etc. again this was for the adults (anyone over 18 in our family ) I end up with a set of two nerf guns. No nothing got mixed up, my 23 yr old brother put 2 nerf guns in the gift exchange. I figured I would give them to the kids or save them for last minute birthday parties or something. Well the DH and I have ended up having multiple nerf gun fights this week when the kids weren't home. It's been really a silly fun thing and has had us rolling on the floor laughing!! I have found nerf darts in the weirdest places and it makes me laugh every time. So what I thought was really lame turned into a fun game for DH and I. I'm thinking these will not be for kid use and only for DH and I lol
I don't mean to seem ungrateful.
I am grateful for the present, I really am, but I still wonder if he spent less or just didn't start shopping till the day before. I am an awful person.
After reading some of your other posts, I wanted to add an addendum to my previous posts.I don't mean to seem ungrateful.
I guess, I just wish more effort was put into my present, that's all. If he would have went out and got me $25 worth of gifts, but each gift had a designated reason and purpose to it, I would be over the moon. Two years ago, he got my mom a sweatshirt that was not on her list, but he saw it and "thought of her." To me, that is just the best kind of gift.
The thing is, his parents are just like you and me when it comes to shopping. They go through ads on a weekly basis, if not more often. They scour the internet for deals. Everyone else in my family and everyone else in their family got lots of gifts during the exchange because everyone really tried. Everyone maximized their budget, and in some cases, probably exceeded their budget by a smidgen. (I went $3 over)
I am grateful for the present, I really am, but I still wonder if he spent less or just didn't start shopping till the day before. I am an awful person.