I have been lurking on the boards for a while now reading lots of good information and smiling at peoples happy posts and photos etc... and can not believe the responses this poor girl has received from people who class themselves as mothers!!
I am so thankful that I have the sort of mother who would love me NO MATTER WHAT and would NEVER put me in the selfish category for making a choice! Yes she might be angry, yes she might be upset and heart broken - but she would NEVER call me selfish for following my heart. I am now sitting here now realising what a wonderful mother I have! My heart truly breaks when I hear mothers saying that their children are being selfish for living out their dreams - how can someone who calls themselves a mother say such hurtful things!!!! A word of warning to such mothers - I hope the day never comes when your child resents you for getting in the way of their dreams and I also hope that your daughters never look back at their photos or wedding video thinking 'I hated my wedding day, my mum was there and was happy - but I wasnt' - I could never live with myself knowing I was the reason why my daughter didnt have the wedding she had always dreamed of.
If you would like some honest advice Summer-Caitlin, do not return to read this thread EVER again!! Yes you will receive some understanding words, but you will also receive lots of rude and ignorant comments from people who know nothing about you or your situation - you have got enough on your plate to deal with as it is.
Personally, my mother, father and fiance all share that number one spot in my heart - so I could not get married without those 3 being there.
You MUST do what you feel is right in your heart, everyone makes a decision for a reason and if you dont follow it - then it will just lead to more anger and resentment in the future. If you can somehow find a way to include your mother - then I'm sure that would be so wonderful for you and her, if you can't - then you just have to hang in there and stick by your decision.
But as I mentioned before, stay away from this thread because I feel like some of the comments will be chipping away at your heart and you dont need that, especially from people who dont even know you! Talk to your mother and your fiance, they are the people that matter
And gosh, this must be the worlds longest first post on a message board LOL !!