I will be honest and say that there was a time when I would have agreed with you about what I considered an appropriate "look" for a Disney employee. I used to like the squeaky-clean ideal. Well, honestly, I still do, but I'm the mother of 2 almost-19-year-olds, a 21-year-old, a 39-year-old, and a 41-year-old. When the older 2 were kids and we went to DL, I expected the "wholesome" Disney CM look. It's what I grew up with and I equated it to the Disney image. Well, times change. I've grown with the times, though I'll admit that it hasn't always been easy to let go of those older views of appropriateness as my mother had very strong thoughts on that. But having kids in such a broad range of ages, I've learned to stretch my previous limits. I've even come to embrace things that I never would have previously (for instance, I seriously considered getting my nose pierced along with my twin teens a few years back, but it just seemed kind of dumb for a 60-year-old woman). When my 39-year-old turned 16, I went with her to get her belly-button pierced (I was just so glad it wasn't her tongue). My 21-year-old got a couple of tattoos this year and I admit to cringing at the thought at first. My 41-year-old wanted to get his ear pierced when he was 13 and I said no. His response was to come back at me with, "Well, don't you find that sexist? You let K (little sister) get her ears pierced." When I considered that, I decided he made an excellent point and gave him the ok. See, I remember not being allowed to wear pants to school--no girls were allowed to wear them when I was in high school because it was considered sloppy and inappropriate. My friends and I rebelled and eventually, the rules were relaxed. Older adults thought it was the beginning of the end of civilization (though they seemed ok with skirts so short you couldn't pick up your own pencil if you dropped it without a lot of weird maneuvering).
My point is that times change. I'll bet that if you look back in your own past, you'll see areas in which you chose differently from the way your parents' and grand-parents' generations would have done. It may not feel comfortable to accept a look that goes against your own personal coda, but I think we have to recognize that each generation is going to put its own stamp on what constitutes appropriate and acceptable. We have to judge people by their actions and how they treat others, and realize that changing the status quo is kind of a rite of passage and part of growing up. While you have the right not to like it, you really don't have the right to judge it as bad.
