Wishing on a star
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- Aug 7, 2002
I am way harder on my self then I should be and it has been a hard summer both working are butts off on the house still have a lot of work to do and a lot of but kissing to my boss to keep my job to the point I am ready to pull my hair out
Okay, I think I see a little bit of the picture!!!
You guys are very busy and very stressed!!!!
That happens...
Even (or maybe 'especially') to Newlyweds.
Yep, life happens...
And when one gets overly stressed, overtired, overwhelmed, etc... Well, I think that is what you might be referring to when you say 'monster'.
That is when the bad sides of human nature can come out!
You know what I think you might need...
You need to learn to TAKE and MAKE the time, together, and leave those demands and stressors behind...
IMHO, ALL marriages/relationships need this.
Stop.... Take three deep breaths... Check your calanders.... And find that time, at least a few minutes on a few days every week... and for at least one day every few weeks... to just RELAX, DECOMPRESS, and just be yourselves with each other.
I have heard of a technique recommended by therapists, perhap called The Stop Method.
Maybe this is something that can be looked up????
It might help to visualize that "POOF.... all those stressors have just disappeared..." Just temporarily..... Let them go..... Lock the doors and windows, so to speak... Temporarily, choose to FORGET about the work on the house... The stresses at work, etc.... Don't let them control you 24/7.... They are not really going to be solved or completed just like that.... It isn't going to hurt to put them away for a bit.... And, it might help, A LOT !!!!