I don't let my age make me unhappy. It's a fact that can't be changed. It's nothing to hide or be ashamed of. I think what makes people unhappy is that they aren't where they think they should be by a certain age, as another poster stated. Last year, I was 45, unhappy with my weight and appearance and my DH was in a long period of unemployment. I couldn't do much about the economy in our area and I knew he was trying hard to find a job. So, I focused on what I could change. Starting on August 1, I changed my eating habits and exercised my power to make my own choices. It didn't matter if everyone else was eating cake. I didn't have to. The day before my 46th birthday in December, my DH was offered a fantastic job and I had lost over 40 pounds! Things were looking up! I stuck to my new eating habits and, as of this morning, I've lost 65 pounds! I had my unruly hair straightened and got a great cut and I'm much happier with my overall appearance. Last week, an old man tried to pick up on me at the grocery store! OK, so it was kind of creepy in a Hugh Hefner-type way, but I doubt he would have noticed me at this time last year!
Before the job offer, I was depressed because my kids wanted to know when and where our next vacation would be. I didn't have an answer for them. We had to save our extra money because we didn't know when more would come in. So, I focused on finding ways to create a vacation fund out of nothing. I did online editing, surveys, saved recycling, sold my knitted scarves and saved change. By the time my DH was employed again, I had saved over $2000 toward a trip to
Disneyland. We were going to take the kids whether he had a job or not using the extra money I scraped up. I made it my mission to find ways to make extra money and it became like a game. By the time we leave next month, I'll have $4000 in my "fun fund" and we didn't use any money from our regular salaries. It was challenging, but I did it!
My point is to focus on what is making you unhappy and change the things you can change. The number shouldn't matter. Just focus on being the best 45-year old version of you. Maybe it means changing your appearance, doing something positive for your health, making new friends, taking on new activities, etc. Find something that makes you happy and go for it!