I guess I am the most fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants mom I know. Neither one of my girls (6 & 2) were breast fed. I don't have a problem with people doing it.....obviously it is what nature intended and all that. I do get a little freaked out to see a child with
teeth still breast feeding. With my first child I was induced into labor and was all about the epidural!! When I went to try to breast feed her (and I only tried because the nurses were so dang mean about it.....like my child would be dumb as a rock if I didn't) all I could see was this little tiny head and my GIGANTICENORMOUS ta-ta!!! Seriously, I could barely see her face, I could not tell if she was getting anything to eat, it hurt like hell, and my
entire family had no problem standing around waiting for me to "whip it out". So I decide formula was the way to go. When my second daughter was born, naturally.... with no drugs....not even a tylenol, (and not because I chose to but because they kept sending me home until it was too late to get my epidural
and
DEAR GOD how is the earth still populated if that is what women used to have to go through?!?!?!?
) I made my husband go to the nurses station and let everyone know that I was not, nor did I intend to breast feed and no, I would not like to speak to anyone from La Leche, thank you very much!!!
The first one slept in my bed (or on a crib mattress on my floor next to my bed) until she was 3. She wanted to sleep with me and we had a house with stairs then and I was scared she would fall down them in the middle of the night. My second one still sleeps with me. We put her in her bed (downstairs) after she falls asleep and she sneaks back in my bed, wedges her head under my butt and sticks her feet in her daddy's face sometime around 3am I think. My husband whines about it every night. He asks when will she stay in
her bed. I tell him that she will be 3 years old in about 4 months and I will get back to him then. I do this because I am too freakin' tired to force the issue. They don't want to sleep alone, they want to sleep with me and at 3am I cannot argue with anyone! As for intimate time, as someone on here brought up, it's called improvising(we do have SOME alone time~not much but some).......or abstinance
depending on how helpful and sweet or agravating and annoying my DH is being on a given night.
I did not wear them in any kind of sling or snugli or whatever. I lived in Texas then. Have you ever been to Texas? It is HOT!! Why would I strap another 7 to 10 pounds of sweaty human to my body? I held them alot because they were so darn cute but "wear" them?????? I think not.
My children have learned how to sleep sitting straight up because we don't stop our day for nap time. If we are home, we go take a nap, if not, they sleep in the car or the mall or the doctor's office or wherever I have to go that day. We have no set schedule, we have no set dinner time, we have no set bed time. We strive for certain goals, like being in bed by 8:30 but we often fall short and I never stress about it. On days that I have 73 loads of laundry
, bathrooms to clean and need to have dinner on the table by 5:00 so that my 6 yr old doesn't have to eat yet another McNugget on the way to cheer practice, my 2 yr old finally gets the syrup from breakfast washed out of her hair when her daddy gets home from work and can give her a bath. We are an extremely busy household and we just go with the flow.
Both of my kids are immunized. Public schools are where we are at right now. Should I become unsatisfied with the school my kids are in, I will put them in private school or we will move. I will not homeschool because I do not want to and I think that my kids need the social interaction. These are all personal choices and I have my reasons as I am sure others have theirs.
Here's the interesting thing. I know yall probably think I am biased and I probably am but I have the best kids! First of all, they have no attachment issues. I haven't even been to the bathroom by myself in almost 7 years they are that attached!
Also, they are the most affectionate kids. They are big huggers and kissers and "I love you"ers with
all of our friends and family members and all this without me wearing them around my neck for the first few months of life! (Shock, gasp!) But at the same time, they are perfectly happy to go stay with their grandparents for a weekend.....not a whole lot of separation anxiety is what I am trying to say. My 6yr old started having sleep overs this past year with a few select friends and I have never once had an issue with her over this. Also, they are both extemely smart, well behaved (most of the time), well mannered and fun, funny kids!! They LOVE each other to no end. My big one takes care of my little one like a little mamma hen and the little one copies everything the big one says and does. There is very, very little fighting between the two. EVER. Cool, huh? I have had people I don't even know comment on these positive aspects of my kids. I get positive comments about my children from aquaintences, friends, family and strangers on an almost daily basis and I feel SO blessed!!!!
Here are my last two cents and the best parenting advice anyone ever gave me: You know your child best so do what feels right for your child. If you have a child that is easily overwhelmed or over stimulated, obviously my "no schedule" schedule will not work for you. But I do believe that kids are fairly adaptable and as long as YOU are a constant in their life then NO WORRIES!!!!