frostedpink
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- Jun 22, 2012
I have a daughter, age 6, that has been exhibiting some anxious behavior lately. I’m not sure if I should sit and wait it out (just a phase?) or if I should bring her to a child therapist. I’m not sure where the line is for waiting it out vs getting help. I have anxiety myself, so she is definitely pre-disposed to this.
It started about a month ago when she got sick at lunch (threw up in front of everyone). After she returned to school, she began acting nervous, anxious, and crying each morning at the before-school care. She would be fine once it was time to go to her classroom (after about an hour).
Most of the other kids at the before-school care are older (3rd-5th graders). I’ve asked her and the staff if anyone is picking on her, etc and they all say no. When she cries, she tells the staff that she misses me, she’s worried that something will happen to me, etc. This is all strange to me, because she’s been in daycare her whole life, so she is used to being without mom and dad during the day.
To make matters worse, she now lies to me when I ask her if she cried today. She always says no (and many days she preempts the question and says “mom I didn’t cry today!”.) Well, today I asked the staff at before-school care and sure enough, she’s been crying every single day. They said the second I walk out the door, she becomes very nervous, cries, etc. I was able to observe that today b/c she thought I had left, when I actually went to another area of the room to talk to the staff member. Sure enough, her lip was quivering, and her body language was very passive, nervous, hesitant.
I don’t want to punish her for lying about this, because it’s already an upsetting situation. But I’m not sure what else to do. It’s like she can’t verbalize to me what is bothering her. Is she doing this for attention?! I’m not sure.
Do you think this is just a phase, like she’s realizing that mom isn’t always right next to her, etc? I just don’t know what to do!
It started about a month ago when she got sick at lunch (threw up in front of everyone). After she returned to school, she began acting nervous, anxious, and crying each morning at the before-school care. She would be fine once it was time to go to her classroom (after about an hour).
Most of the other kids at the before-school care are older (3rd-5th graders). I’ve asked her and the staff if anyone is picking on her, etc and they all say no. When she cries, she tells the staff that she misses me, she’s worried that something will happen to me, etc. This is all strange to me, because she’s been in daycare her whole life, so she is used to being without mom and dad during the day.
To make matters worse, she now lies to me when I ask her if she cried today. She always says no (and many days she preempts the question and says “mom I didn’t cry today!”.) Well, today I asked the staff at before-school care and sure enough, she’s been crying every single day. They said the second I walk out the door, she becomes very nervous, cries, etc. I was able to observe that today b/c she thought I had left, when I actually went to another area of the room to talk to the staff member. Sure enough, her lip was quivering, and her body language was very passive, nervous, hesitant.
I don’t want to punish her for lying about this, because it’s already an upsetting situation. But I’m not sure what else to do. It’s like she can’t verbalize to me what is bothering her. Is she doing this for attention?! I’m not sure.
Do you think this is just a phase, like she’s realizing that mom isn’t always right next to her, etc? I just don’t know what to do!