Liz
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- Aug 18, 1999
I have a first cousin that lives on the other side of the country. Her parents have died and she is permanently estranged from her only sibling. She is moving much closer to us - 500 miles away instead of 2000.
She is excited that it will be easier for us to see each other. We are in touch daily through texts (usually initiated by her - it's a lot, but she doesn't have many people in her life.) I'm sure she will travel here once she's living so much closer. She's never asked to stay with us and I've never offered, but I am thinking it's assumed on her part. Just wondering how to handle this because we do have a guest room so if she comes to our house and I've told her she can't stay here, well, it will be awkward.
We aren't people with extra money, but I'd be willing to pay for a hotel just down the road (Comfort Inn) for maybe two nights. It would be worth it. I believe she smokes and I wouldn't want her smoking at our house (even outside), so I was thinking that might be my best reason to say a hotel would be a better fit. Plus, I think she would be uncomfortable in our house because my elderly mother lives with us and we have to keep the thermostat at 78. It's warm.
We love my cousin as family, but meeting her for lunch every few years when we were visiting her current area has been preferable to a longer visit. Other than DNA, we have very little in common. Any suggestions on the best way to handle this so no one is left feeling bad or unwanted?
She is excited that it will be easier for us to see each other. We are in touch daily through texts (usually initiated by her - it's a lot, but she doesn't have many people in her life.) I'm sure she will travel here once she's living so much closer. She's never asked to stay with us and I've never offered, but I am thinking it's assumed on her part. Just wondering how to handle this because we do have a guest room so if she comes to our house and I've told her she can't stay here, well, it will be awkward.
We aren't people with extra money, but I'd be willing to pay for a hotel just down the road (Comfort Inn) for maybe two nights. It would be worth it. I believe she smokes and I wouldn't want her smoking at our house (even outside), so I was thinking that might be my best reason to say a hotel would be a better fit. Plus, I think she would be uncomfortable in our house because my elderly mother lives with us and we have to keep the thermostat at 78. It's warm.
We love my cousin as family, but meeting her for lunch every few years when we were visiting her current area has been preferable to a longer visit. Other than DNA, we have very little in common. Any suggestions on the best way to handle this so no one is left feeling bad or unwanted?