We were gifted a wedding, my husband has very large family. I come from the exact opposite. Neither of my parents Had any siblings, so I had no aunts or cousins. I have one sister. My parents divorced when I was 11, and she Re-married a very good man when I was about 18 or so.
My father, sigh, played hockey when I was young, and was almost always gone, he then injured himself, went back to school and became a chartered accountant. He was always an alcoholic, and so he was the typical one. But he was a hard worker.
i respected my in-laws (now I wish I had eloped, but alas), and had the huge Italian wedding. My mother paid what she could, we really only has friends, my god-father, perhaps 20 people, lol. Their side was about 300-400
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So our start was the wedding gifts, which gave us the Down payment for our fourplex. We took a 25 year mortgage and this Is it finally, it is paid this year!, All our friends live in their own homes, but this works for us. The tenants always paid our mortgage and more, We were also able to purchase a duplex beside my in-laws, which we rent out, They have both passed Now, and thst is how they do it for all their children. We were doing that also. Making sure each has a home, they can live in it or rent. My son will be fine, he is working and saving like crazy, I am glad for him.
My mom passed 4 years ago, her husband 5 days later. So then was my first inheritance. My dad passed 2 years ago, and I am Just now getting all the inheritance there. It’s a nightmare. He always had a condo as well as a home in Florida, and re-married, and well, it has not been fun.