simonkodousek
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Feb 11, 2007
I know this is off topic, but I see a lot of posts for thoughts and prayers, so here's mine...
I'm gay. I've known for a long time, but I haven't really been too bothered by it until a few weeks ago. I think I started to really "care" more about who I am when I heard and read about some of the teens that committed suicide because of people being... Heartless, careless, hateful, mean, and just evil.
I started coming out to my close friends about a month ago after I found out this guy I've known for 2-3 years came out to his friends and family. It feels so good to be myself in front of those I've told, but because not everyone knows, I still can't be 100% me. I'm sure if I told my parents they would tell me it's fine, I can live my life how I want to, and that they will love me unconditionally. My mom probably knows at this point anyway... You know, "motherly instinct, LOL."
I don't really see my dad too much. My parents are married, but my dad's ALWAYS working, and ALWAYS traveling. Right now he's in Africa doing some legal work for a mine his company is building in Johannesburg. I know he wouldn't care too much if he knew, but there's that part of me that knows he would be ashamed. He's a "guy, guy" and is always trying to do something outdoorsy when he has free time. My brother is the same way and they connect very well. My brother's only 14, but because of the military school he goes to, he is very anti-gay. Especially since one of the cadets got raped recently, he has gone in to hyper-anti-gay mode. HE would definitely be embarrassed by having a gay brother, which makes me so sad. Even though he's annoying as all hell, and drives me nuts, he's still my brother and not having communication with him would make me feel horrible.
I don't really know where I am right now with all of this, just trying to cope as best as I can I guess. I know that I'm "normal" in the grand scheme of things, but it just feels like I'm surrounded with people that are very narrow-minded. I feel really empty and alone, like I'm the only one out there in this situation, even though I really know I'm not.
Any advice?
~Simon
I'm gay. I've known for a long time, but I haven't really been too bothered by it until a few weeks ago. I think I started to really "care" more about who I am when I heard and read about some of the teens that committed suicide because of people being... Heartless, careless, hateful, mean, and just evil.
I started coming out to my close friends about a month ago after I found out this guy I've known for 2-3 years came out to his friends and family. It feels so good to be myself in front of those I've told, but because not everyone knows, I still can't be 100% me. I'm sure if I told my parents they would tell me it's fine, I can live my life how I want to, and that they will love me unconditionally. My mom probably knows at this point anyway... You know, "motherly instinct, LOL."
I don't really see my dad too much. My parents are married, but my dad's ALWAYS working, and ALWAYS traveling. Right now he's in Africa doing some legal work for a mine his company is building in Johannesburg. I know he wouldn't care too much if he knew, but there's that part of me that knows he would be ashamed. He's a "guy, guy" and is always trying to do something outdoorsy when he has free time. My brother is the same way and they connect very well. My brother's only 14, but because of the military school he goes to, he is very anti-gay. Especially since one of the cadets got raped recently, he has gone in to hyper-anti-gay mode. HE would definitely be embarrassed by having a gay brother, which makes me so sad. Even though he's annoying as all hell, and drives me nuts, he's still my brother and not having communication with him would make me feel horrible.
I don't really know where I am right now with all of this, just trying to cope as best as I can I guess. I know that I'm "normal" in the grand scheme of things, but it just feels like I'm surrounded with people that are very narrow-minded. I feel really empty and alone, like I'm the only one out there in this situation, even though I really know I'm not.
Any advice?
~Simon