What's the ONE life decision you regret (the most)?

wilbret

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Aug 1, 2018
If you have multiple, just pick one. The "salt in the wounds" thread got me thinking.

In 2005, we bought a new house. It was everything we wanted. The housing market was booming, BRAC (Base Realignment and Closure) was bringing tens of thousands to our town, and housing prices were going thru the roof. We sold our little house in one day, and made a deal on a new house. Within months, it was already up in value... yay!

Then, BRAC was delayed. Building stopped. The neighborhood stopped at our house, in both directions. Just streets.

My company relocated in 2006, and I tried something else for a year in that one-horse town, but ultimately, we needed to move for greener pastures, with a baby on the way.

In 2008, we listed the house for sale, and it sat for months. We got serious low-ball offers, but passed, expecting more to come. They didn't. I began to commute 2+ hours to work, and ultimately ended up staying with a friend during the week for several months. We put the house up for rent, but the renter moved without notice after a few months, and we had to battle to collect rent. It cost thousands to fix the house back up to sell. By this time, we were living 3 hours away, paying mortgage and rent, and gas was $4 a gallon at the time!

We accepted an offer after almost 2 years on the market, and we had to bring a check for $11,000 to closing. If we had taken the first "lowball" offer, we would have netted $50,000 from the deal, but ended up losing almost $100,000 when it was all said and done from selling below what we owed, rent, repairs, etc...

And of course, after we moved, BRAC came thru, they finished the neighborhood, and prices skyrocketed. Shoot me.
 
Same. My biggest regrets come from buying and selling homes. Biggest way to lose money that I know of other than buying triple leveraged ETFs.
 
Not learning how to drive until I was 30. Most of my life I had always lived near public transportation, so having a car wasn't necessary (or affordable). Once I was married to my 1st husband, however, we moved to the MA/RI border and in trying to teach me, he lost all confidence and his temper with me.

Fast forward several years and one divorce later, the man I'm married to pointed out that with a newborn, having the ability to drive expanded our options for buying a house away from the train, more child care options and having the freedom to go anywhere when I felt like it. Plus he pointed out that if he could teach people to fly, he could teach me to drive.

It was successful and I only scared him once during our lessons. Now if I can just deal with the highway stress...well, it would help.
 
This sounds awful - marrying my ex-husband. I walked down the aisle with doubts and fear. I knew I should have called it off but my mom was so into it and planned the whole thing with me along for the ride. I couldn't do it. Four years later I was getting ready to file for divorce and somehow the one time that year we did the uh "dance" I ended up pregnant. So 17 years after the wedding I finally divorced a mentally abusive and distant man which caused pain to my son and basically financial ruin for me. Could have saved a lot of heartache with one little decision.
 
Buying a house next to a (known) awful neighbor. We were warned, but got along with him OK...for a while. About 10 years in he decided he hated me and we have faced non-stop, micro-aggression bullying ever since. We are taking him to court right now over a wall he built in our (shared) driveway.
 
Buying a house next to a (known) awful neighbor. We were warned, but got along with him OK...for a while. About 10 years in he decided he hated me and we have faced non-stop, micro-aggression bullying ever since. We are taking him to court right now over a wall he built in our (shared) driveway.

Get a survey done.

I had a bad neighbor that started to build on my property. I left him a letter with my survey telling him to stop. That pissed him off, and I had to call the police on him. I also notified the HOA. He eventually made everything right without me taking him to court, but I was happy to sell that house and move.
 
Get a survey done.

I had a bad neighbor that started to build on my property. I left him a letter with my survey telling him to stop. That pissed him off, and I had to call the police on him. I also notified the HOA. He eventually made everything right without me taking him to court, but I was happy to sell that house and move.
I have a bad neighbor too. Very entitled and arrogant. We try to ignore it. Thankfully we have a double lot so there’s space between us.
 
Get a survey done.

I had a bad neighbor that started to build on my property. I left him a letter with my survey telling him to stop. That pissed him off, and I had to call the police on him. I also notified the HOA. He eventually made everything right without me taking him to court, but I was happy to sell that house and move.
We live in in a really old neighborhood with messed up survey monuments - there is a known 6" error that the surveyors can only do a "block survey" to correct - basically share that error with all the properties. The driveways were built for Model T's so they are narrow to begin with. We have side-by-side driveways with the awful neighbor - It only works because there is NOT something built between the driveways and there is an approximate 2' strip of grass between the driveways that is an "equitable easement" - we both get to use it. City planning agrees with us on this fact and they've sent us a letter stating such - can't build anything there, can't park there, it has to remain open. Unfortunately, he built a 2' wall so he does not need a permit (a 4' tall wall would require a permit AND our agreement), and built it as far over our side as he could, taking advantage of the 6" error in the monuments, leaving us with a 7' wide driveway, and moving his driveway over in the process to take the whole equitable easement area for himself. Code enforcement will do nothing because he didn't need a permit. We are right, but our only recourse is civil litigation ($$$$$$$$$). We'd just move but his wall has diminished our property value so much that we estimate we'd lose AT LEAST $100k in value if we did. Thanks to COVID, the case has been delayed 6 months and counting - we've been without a driveway for over a year and we have 3 cars - the garage is in the back of the property so we can't access it with a car. I normally hate HOA's but I REALLY wish we had one right now - this would have gone away a long time ago if we did.

I know, TL:DR. I'll spare you the details about the MANY other micro-aggressions. One example to give you a taste - we lost two cats, pretty sure he trapped them and took them to the pound (outside of the area because we did check our animal control). Why do we suspect this? Because we KNOW he did it to at least two other neighbors. This is a BAD dude. We have a couple of neighbors who have already thanked us for taking him on.
 
The housing market was booming, BRAC (Base Realignment and Closure) was bringing tens of thousands to our town, and housing prices were going thru the roof.
Wow, sure a different experience with BRAC than we had here. We lost two bases, Mather (1993) and McClellan (2001) and those closures devastated the area. The are 14 miles apart. Housing prices plunged, jobs disappeared. Both turned into business parks. The big reason, the Air Force packed 10 times as many workers into the same space as the private sector does. Second issue, other than the runways, the facilities were junk. Businesses would come in and discover the buildings didn't meet building codes (the Air Force is exempt) the communications infrastructures were not only not fiber, they dated to World War II. Everything had to be rebuilt.
I worked at Budget Rent A Car in 1979 and frequently was on both bases picking up Airmen wanting to rent cars, and they were packed with people. Now, you drive on most of the facilities and you only see a handful of people.
Mather now is a FedEx air hub, McClellan is a Coast Guard and CalFire (state fire agency) air hub.
 
Wow, sure a different experience with BRAC than we had here. We lost two bases, Mather (1993) and McClellan (2001) and those closures devastated the area. The are 14 miles apart. Housing prices plunged, jobs disappeared. Both turned into business parks. The big reason, the Air Force packed 10 times as many workers into the same space as the private sector does. Second issue, other than the runways, the facilities were junk. Businesses would come in and discover the buildings didn't meet building codes (the Air Force is exempt) the communications infrastructures were not only not fiber, they dated to World War II. Everything had to be rebuilt.
I worked at Budget Rent A Car in 1979 and frequently was on both bases picking up Airmen wanting to rent cars, and they were packed with people. Now, you drive on most of the facilities and you only see a handful of people.
Mather now is a FedEx air hub, McClellan is a Coast Guard and CalFire (state fire agency) air hub.
Have the real estate and job markets picked up since the closures ?
 

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