This Is Us- Season 3

[WebmasterMaryJo]

I just watched yesterday's show. I don't really have anything to add to the conversation yet - still processing it. I don't think that Kate was being mean, just insensitive because she's wrapped up in her own pain of being overweight and the risks and challenges of her and Toby having a baby. I don't know who the 'her' is yet, but am really intrigued.

The number of commercials drives me crazy.

I always feel a little melancholy this time of year (holidays coming and missing my parents - both gone - and my babies - both grown), so I did cry after today's show. It was so sad, and I really felt for Randall.

Great acting from all of them.

 

[Dentam]

To me Randall is the most like Jack. He tries to be everything to everyone and has the biggest heart.

I agree completely. It's kind of odd to me that Jack would have two biological kids who seem to have very little in common with him personality wise. But maybe we'll see more similarities as the show goes on. So far we just know that there is a common thread of addiction that they all struggled with in different forms.

I hope that the story line with Toby's depression is short lived.

 

[kimblebee]

My cable is out for the week so I missed the episode. I should be able to get it on demand over the weekend. Sounds like a good episode. Toby’s storyline is going to bother me all season because I know the downfalls if not taking medicines for depression and other things. My husband will stop pulls without telling me or talking to his dr because he doesn’t think they are working. By the time I get it out of him that he’s stopped something or changed the dose it’s a big enough change personality wise to know the difference.

 

[Poohforyou]

I hate everybody but Randall

OMG, I pretty much feel the same way. I actually like Randall, Beth and their girls. The rest of them are annoying in a variety of ways.

It's odd people say Randall is the most like Jack because I have a strong dislike for Jack. Maybe it's just the nasty hair I can't get past. I don't see the similarities though.

 

[cabanafrau]

Such a tough time for a parent to die. Not that there's ever an easy time. But it shows how much Jack's death affected the entire family.

I was the same age as the kids when my dad died of a sudden massive heart attack. It affected my mom very much like it seems to have affected Rebecca. I didn't expect the show to hit so close to home. But wow! it pulled me back through these last 30 years. It was the reason I too changed my college plans and felt the need to be at home.

I cannot even begin to imagine how painful watching must be for you sometimes.

 

[china mom]

I agree completely. It's kind of odd to me that Jack would have two biological kids who seem to have very little in common with him personality wise. But maybe we'll see more similarities as the show goes on. So far we just know that there is a common thread of addiction that they all struggled with in different forms.

I hope that the story line with Toby's depression is short lived.

I see some of myself and husband in our biological son but the differences often make me wonder whose kid he is. On the other hand, my adopted daughter is minnie me. She has so many of my mannerisms, likes and dislikes etc. It is weird

 

[sksjasams]

I feel like the show is setting up for Randall to have an identity crisis and breakdown.

 

[china mom]

Now that I think about it... I think Randall (and my daughter), being adopted, looks at the parent more intensely. They are trying to figure out who to be and emulating their role model. Biological children, on the other hand, don't have any pressure to figure out who they are or should be. They just have to "be".

Getting too deep for this early in the morning.

 

[ENJDisneyFan]

I found this episode kinda boring and unbelievable. Who takes pudding as a snack on a car ride? I feel like they could have come up with a better way for Rebecca and Miguel to find out about the IVF. Kate drives me crazy....she is so self absorbed and always assumes the worst about Rebecca. Of course, as a mother, she would be concerned with any procedure that would potentially be unsafe for her child. Rebecca doesn't always express her feelings well to Kate, but I don't blame her for being concerned about the IVF.

And Randall....poor Randall. He tries so hard to "fix" everything. My heart broke for him when the woman at the rec center said "you're not one of us". And Kate's comment, the pain in his eyes was unbearable. He just doesn't seem to fit in anywhere.

 

[AustinTink]

He just doesn't seem to fit in anywhere.

He fits with his own family, which is his wife and kids. The rest of them can take a flying leap.

 

[ENJDisneyFan]

He fits with his own family, which is his wife and kids. The rest of them can take a flying leap.

Well that's true...but he seems to be wanting/searching for more.

 

[AustinTink]

I hope Randall pulls back from Kate after what she said. Not that she would even notice, she so self-absorbed.

 

[SaintsManiac]

Kate drives me nuts!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[AustinTink]

Kate drives me nuts!!!!!!!!!!!

The birthday party scene during the premiere episode and then the thing this week made me crazy. The writers need to dial it back with her or they will start losing viewers.

 

[kashzan]

I so agree. Kate is the most annoying self absorbed person.

 

[Grumpy's Gal]

I just want to find out how Miguel ended up with Rebecca.

 

[NFLDERS]

My cable is out for the week so I missed the episode. I should be able to get it on demand over the weekend. Sounds like a good episode. Toby’s storyline is going to bother me all season because I know the downfalls if not taking medicines for depression and other things. My husband will stop pulls without telling me or talking to his dr because he doesn’t think they are working. By the time I get it out of him that he’s stopped something or changed the dose it’s a big enough change personality wise to know the difference.

 

[NFLDERS]

Such a tough time for a parent to die. Not that there's ever an easy time. But it shows how much Jack's death affected the entire family.

I was the same age as the kids when my dad died of a sudden massive heart attack. It affected my mom very much like it seems to have affected Rebecca. I didn't expect the show to hit so close to home. But wow! it pulled me back through these last 30 years. It was the reason I too changed my college plans and felt the need to be at home.

 

[anniemae]

I just want to find out how Miguel ended up with Rebecca.

They showed that a little bit last season. They connected on Facebook years after Jack died. I believe it was the episode where they flashed back to Tess being born. Rebecca was crying and said something to Randall about how all the happy moments will always be a little sad without Jack. She later was on Facebook and posted a photo of baby Tess, and Miguel sent her a message asking how she was doing. She was talking to baby Tess about new beginnings. It was implied that is how they reconnected.

 

[stitch'sgirl]

It was heartbreaking the way the comment hit Randall. But then we looked down the row from Randall's perspective and saw Kate looking back at him with a warm and loving greeting

I think there's room for understanding between the way Randall is taking what was said and what Kate actually meant. IMO there's simply no way Kate wouldn't take down anyone who would dare suggest that Jack would have been more delighted with grandchildren from Kevin or Kate than he would from Randall. I think if Randall is completely transparent himself about the whole subject he'll admit that he's happy that a bit of William lives on in Tess and Annie -- at the very same time he's devastated that Jack didn't get to meet them and vice versa. Randall is uniquely in a very good position to understand how both ideas can coexist, both ideas of love and family have their merits and in this case there's no need to think about one trumping another or one cancelling the other out. I'm hoping that Randall uses both his big brain and big heart and just decides to lean into the idea of more love all the way around.

Oh, I feel I am going to get flamed. Maybe it's because I secretly struggled with infertility for a decade. I felt so sorry for Kate, not Randall. Kate wanted to keep it a secret, and when the secret was discovered by Rebecca, sure enough Kate felt judged and belittled by Rebecca. She was backed into a corner and blurted out that she just wanted to see her dad's face in her child. That wasn't meant to hurt Randall, and it wasn't meant for Randall's ears either! That girl adored her daddy and she is grasping at the hope of having a baby that will remind her of him. And let me tell you, fertility medications are so powerful. I remember reading that people felt as though they were fine and all of a sudden it was like they were literally hit by a huge wave