surfergirl602
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- Jan 8, 2008
Now that summer is in full swing and people are going on vacation, heading to water parks, and swimming in the pools having fun, PLEASE do not be careless on water safety. Do not make the same mistake that I did today, by putting too much trust in my older children. Now, let me explain.
My two older children are my little helpers. They do everything to help me out, right down to mothering my two year old when I am busy and she needs something, like juice, a snack, someone to play with. They are the best big sisters in the world, and, at my own fault, I have put too much trust in them over the years. They are 9 and 6, but both act 18. I am not blaming them for anything that happened today, I fully blame myself. And I may be flamed for even posting this, but if I can help just one family, then by telling my scare will have been worth it.
We went to the pool today. We practiced our swimming. The two older girls wanted to go to the other end of the pool to go down the water slides. (the shallow end) My six year old asked if she could walk the two year old down the cement pathway of the pool and I agreed, telling her that she needed to wait for me by the chairs. (way away from the edge in the grass) In the 15 seconds that it took me to get the floaties and myself out of the pool, I heard that frantic, "Mommy!" and my two year old was in the water. I have never had so much fear and panic race through my body all at once. I could not run those 20 feet fast enough.
Thankfully, there was a man there on the edge that pulled my daughter from the water in about 6 seconds. She was absolutely fine.
Never have I felt like such a bad mother in my life. I haven't been able to stop crying, and I'm still shaken up about it. I watch my children like vultures. They aren't even allowed to play outside without me. My friends call me overprotective. I call myself cautious. S many children are taken, or hit by cars these days.
When I talked to my six year old about why she didn't listen to me (an ongoing problem), she didn't know why she didn't. And it brought me back to the realization that she's six. She's not a grown up, she's not a teenager, even though she acts like it. She's still a child herself. Why did I let her walk her down to the other side of the pool? Because I thought it would be perfectly fine. Later, she was crying and said that she was just so sorry about what happened and we had a very long talk about how I should have made her wait for me to get out, I wasn't mad at her because I am the mommy, I am the adult, and it was my fault, and I love her, etc. She said that she wanted to sit on the stairs because it was so hot, and thought that there were stairs on both sides of the railing (there aren't) and the baby's fingers were wet and slippery and she couldn't hold on to her when she stepped down. She went fully under. If that man (my angel) hadn't have been there, I can't even fathom what would have happened. The lifeguards didn't even notice, believe it or not.
So, everyone, lets use me as the perfect example of what NOT to do around those pools, even those zero entry pools. Don't work on that tan and assume that they are going to be okay because they have arm floaties on or are with their older sibling. In the split second of an eye, your life can be turned upside down. Water safety should be taught more these days, and even though my children are good in the water and know the rules, they are still kids, and they don't always think things though.
Don't ever think that it couldn't happen to me, because it did. It happened to me, and I almost lost the love of my life today, because I thought that ten seconds didn't matter. Ten little seconds, and my life could have been changed forever.
Please everyone, be careful, and always watch and be there for your children. It amazes me how many parents (and this is on a military post) let their children go to the pool by themselves. I've learned from this simple mistake, and I hope that some on here can as well.
So there's my life changing mistake.
Thanks for reading.
My two older children are my little helpers. They do everything to help me out, right down to mothering my two year old when I am busy and she needs something, like juice, a snack, someone to play with. They are the best big sisters in the world, and, at my own fault, I have put too much trust in them over the years. They are 9 and 6, but both act 18. I am not blaming them for anything that happened today, I fully blame myself. And I may be flamed for even posting this, but if I can help just one family, then by telling my scare will have been worth it.
We went to the pool today. We practiced our swimming. The two older girls wanted to go to the other end of the pool to go down the water slides. (the shallow end) My six year old asked if she could walk the two year old down the cement pathway of the pool and I agreed, telling her that she needed to wait for me by the chairs. (way away from the edge in the grass) In the 15 seconds that it took me to get the floaties and myself out of the pool, I heard that frantic, "Mommy!" and my two year old was in the water. I have never had so much fear and panic race through my body all at once. I could not run those 20 feet fast enough.
Thankfully, there was a man there on the edge that pulled my daughter from the water in about 6 seconds. She was absolutely fine.
Never have I felt like such a bad mother in my life. I haven't been able to stop crying, and I'm still shaken up about it. I watch my children like vultures. They aren't even allowed to play outside without me. My friends call me overprotective. I call myself cautious. S many children are taken, or hit by cars these days.
When I talked to my six year old about why she didn't listen to me (an ongoing problem), she didn't know why she didn't. And it brought me back to the realization that she's six. She's not a grown up, she's not a teenager, even though she acts like it. She's still a child herself. Why did I let her walk her down to the other side of the pool? Because I thought it would be perfectly fine. Later, she was crying and said that she was just so sorry about what happened and we had a very long talk about how I should have made her wait for me to get out, I wasn't mad at her because I am the mommy, I am the adult, and it was my fault, and I love her, etc. She said that she wanted to sit on the stairs because it was so hot, and thought that there were stairs on both sides of the railing (there aren't) and the baby's fingers were wet and slippery and she couldn't hold on to her when she stepped down. She went fully under. If that man (my angel) hadn't have been there, I can't even fathom what would have happened. The lifeguards didn't even notice, believe it or not.
So, everyone, lets use me as the perfect example of what NOT to do around those pools, even those zero entry pools. Don't work on that tan and assume that they are going to be okay because they have arm floaties on or are with their older sibling. In the split second of an eye, your life can be turned upside down. Water safety should be taught more these days, and even though my children are good in the water and know the rules, they are still kids, and they don't always think things though.
Don't ever think that it couldn't happen to me, because it did. It happened to me, and I almost lost the love of my life today, because I thought that ten seconds didn't matter. Ten little seconds, and my life could have been changed forever.
Please everyone, be careful, and always watch and be there for your children. It amazes me how many parents (and this is on a military post) let their children go to the pool by themselves. I've learned from this simple mistake, and I hope that some on here can as well.
So there's my life changing mistake.
Thanks for reading.