------------------That is really wonderful that you could see that at such a young age, you must have been very mature.
That's my point, the decisions for the services are given to the parents (or closest relative) because they are going to live with this for the rest of their lives & it (the grief) will become a part of who they are, not a simple vent on a message board, not a simple "should have been closed" statement, know what I mean?
While I understand what you're saying, a "family" very rarely is only "one" person.. There are spouses, parents, siblings, children (who are sometimes quite young) and if the condition of the body is so gruesome that it is going to traumatize family members, there are other ways in which the situation can be handled in order to provide closure for those family members who "need" that time with the deceased.. Funeral homes always offer the option of private family viewing both before and after the public viewing.. Just because a casket is closed for the public viewing does not mean that it can't be "open" both before and after..
Believe me, I have been to some gut-wrenching viewings.. My cousins 5 year old son - who was killed by a drunk driver.. A good friends 18 month old daughter - who died after open heart surgery.. My 17 year old cousin - also killed by a drunk driver.. And the list goes on.. But in all of those viewings the deceased looked "peaceful" - not gruesome.. I can certainly understand the need for closure - for everyone involved - but it doesn't have to be a "one way or the other" option.. There is nothing preventing the family from doing both..