Nancyg56
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Aug 17, 2005
I have two in their 20's who have all their cousins on one side now married and lots of friends going, going and gone. The big joke is the more expensive the wedding the more likely it won't last. Most expensive cousin's wedding; marriage didn't last a year. The fun part was most the relatives weren't even told for another year but facebook don't lie. HAHA.
I am with you and told my kids what I was told. We will spend XXX dollars, anything more you will have to come up with. Told DD, we are not blowing a wad of our retirement for a "party". At this point both have expressed desire for small ~ and if I had to do it over again I wouldn't have had 250 people at ours ... most of which I have no idea where they are. And both kids only want to invite the relatives they are VERY close to, and I dread the day because there are some aunt/uncles they don't want to come ... mostly due to their behavior. I keep whispering "small destination wedding" in their ears while they sleep.
It's funny about FB. I knew there was trouble in paradise when my nephew's inlaws were treating their entire family to a Disney vacation. The Poly, DxDDP for every one of them. Fun, right? Well the weekend prior to their departure there was a gathering at my sisters house and my nephew came with his wife and kids, and I gave the boys their Disney Dollars that I have purchased for them. You could cut the tension with a knife! So I followed the pics on FB, and not one of my nephew! Okay....Mom, the boys, all of the extended family. No Brian.
For the next several months there were no pictures of the couple together so I figured it was getting bad. My sister told me she almost fell over when she was told they separated. Seriously? No you not pay attention to the pics on FB???? You can always tell.
I am Blessed because my three are all in stable loving marriages, and while I knwo that they all have had their challenges, so far so good! My DH and I always felt that if they could manage to get through the planning stages of their wedding respectfully they woudl have a chance to get through their lives together once the wedding was over and the marriage began. Compromise, respect, saving, budgets, timing and prioritizing, the how shebang is involved in wedding planning, just like in a marriage. My DH says it's getting their "pecking order" right. LOL!!! Farm Boy just cannot help himself!