I have been trying to explain to people for YEARS the importance of doing "research" for a WDW trip, especially since people are always sent my way, because "she's the Disney lady". I used to have a lot more current knowledge and expertise when I was lucky enough to be able to go just about every year or so. I realize that I LOVE researching activities - be it WDW or something else - and it's part of the whole trip for me, and others may not. But you have to at least have a passing idea ow what to expect when you're spending this much money. And gee - you might have an idea of what/where you'd like to eat, since you eat every day, at least once a day, no? You may not go to a certain park, or go on certain rides or shows - but - ya gotta eat, right?
Forget the fact that I haven't even been - or tried to explain - since legacy FP's were still in use, crowd levels were lower (although rising), before Magic Bands,
MDE, all that; since my last trip was almost 5 years ago. I wouldn't even want to TRY and explain it now. And that was the people who had come to me for advice, to help them plan - NOT somebody traveling WITH me - that was even WORSE, since their refusal to cooperate in even the smallest amount of planning, or "preference sharing" to help me was always a struggle. Especially when I'd plan something I thought we'd both/all enjoy, with NO input, and then have them decide to NOT want to do whatever. I'd always try my best not to take it personally, or let it spoil my day/mood, and carry on. I think that would be MUCH harder now, since planning has gone from "strongly encouraged" to just about "mandatory", for any type of enjoyable experience, IMHO.
And I used to love those who'd I'd take HOURS "helping" (usually them doing little to nothing), then they'd come back and tell me "So and so's Aunt Edna, who knows Sally's mailman, who went 10 years ago, says what you said isn't true" (or whatever) blah, blah. Used to tighten my jaw muscles every single time.
I hear you. I haven't been back to WDW since 2000 when I did my advanced internship. My younger sister took her children 7 &4 to WDW for a day in March. I think her mistake was asking me for help because she had no idea what she was getting into. I told her that one day was not enough time in the park. (They did MK) I made autograph books (cost me about 40 dollars to make 3 since they were going with a friend and her little girl.)and they forgot to bring the books with them to be signed. I tried to explain how she could save money on buying her tickets before she got there. I kept asking her what day they were going since costs change by season. She wasn't sure. I tried to explain fast passes but I think her "plan" was just to go and wing it. Oh that drove me nuts. I did prep the 7 year old with a kid's review book on WDW. That child read the book from start to finish even though he knew they were only doing MK. He was even begging his mom to make fast passes. Poor child!! He listened to all my tips. We previewed some rides on Youtube so that he wouldn't be scared to ride things. From what I heard they didn't get to do much. My sister and her 4 year old daughter got stuck on the People Mover. Lol. So now her memories of WDW are People Mover stopping and having to get out near Space Mt. At some point I had to let go of the trip because it was driving me crazy. How could they just go and wing it? Next time I take the kids and plan for them. Heck, they can even take their autograph books.