I'll preface this with a disclaimer that I'm not personally attacking you or your choices. Again, I'm a firm believer that there is no wrong way to do Disney. If you like onsite, great.! I just want to counter some of your points so that new people (like the OP) understand that they don't have to stay on property to have the best time. A lot of what you like about onsite is regularly promoted by Disney and staunch onsiters to such an extent that people actually believe they will have a "less than" experience if they don't stay onsite. The OP's original question was about saving money, distance, safety and the same experience. All of which can be true for staying offsite.
...... We like to come and go from our resort (we aren’t all day park people).
We aren't all day park people either. It takes us usually less than 10 minutes from leaving a park to our offsite resort; way less time than Disney transportation. It is not difficult to drive out of the parks or drive back to them later in the day.
........The buses can be slow, but we usually have a car, and it’s nice to just pull up for a dining reservation in the evening and not to have to pay to park.
Parking currently is $25 per day and is good for the entire day's parking at any park, you don't have to pay twice if you leave and come back. The parking fee is still minimal compared to the overall Disney resort fees. For example, the full condo (full kitchen, laundry, dining room, bedroom suite with jacuzzi) we had last September was $400 for Sheraton Vistana Resort. We added $100 for parking for 4 park days and still made out $500 cheaper than if we stayed at an All Stars for the week.
...........The extended magic hours are a nice bonus too. I’ve knocked out some of the most popular rides without a FastPass during that time.
Thankfully this bonus has not gone away yet because people really enjoy the extra hours, although Disney has been decreasing them lately. (obviously not for SWGE opening though) Usually it amounts to an hour or two in a designated park. We personally tend to avoid EMH parks because we found them to be more crowded.
.......Also, the customer service is fantastic. As my daughter walked through the hotel with her princess dress on, everyone from managers to maids to pool boys said, “Hello, princess!” It just totally made her trip.
I would argue that Disney customer service while you are physically walking onsite is fantastic whether you are an onsite or offsite guest. They're really good at making people feel the magic.
........But the convenience, customer service, and limited perks (EMH) are worth it for us. It just depends on what kind of trip you’re looking for.
I agree 100%. It's all about what a person is looking for and what's worth it for them. We personally like being able to go to Disney once or twice a year because of the way we save money and stay offsite. Some people prefer to stay onsite because that fits the experience they're looking for, but may only go once every other year or so.
I have helped many people plan their Disney trips and I'm always amazed at how programmed people are to stay onsite, buy the
DDP, etc. There are other options out there for people who are looking for them, but they're not as visible. I'm glad boards like this exist so people can research other options that would work for them!