That person just stated their opinion and you are the minority. The average American lives in the state they are born or even in the same city.Not everyone lives close the their families. Those stating it's rude to have a destination wedding aren't considering those of us who have moved across the country from our families.
Am I to have a wedding in either my hometown or my husband's hometown even though we don't live there so none of our guests have to travel. But wait, we met while living away from our families and our families don't live in the same town. Do we have two weddings? One in each home town so that only we, the couple, are out travel expenses?
That doesn't seem reasonable now does it? We had a destination wedding. Everyone had to travel to attend and we had our wedding in a place that was important to us. Those that could make it did and those that couldn't were missed but we understood.
In the end you do what feels right for you. Some people will be turned off by a destination wedding (which is different than having a wedding in the area you now live).
With weddings the only right answers comes from what do I like and can I afford it.