Somewhat this. I enjoy it if the stranger is really friendly and ignores that I am a little awkward or might not talk a lot at first. Also, it has to be not creepy. I mean if it is a situation where strangers are joined together anyhow, then great (waiting in line, communal dining, hairdresser, etc.). I don't generally initiate. I generally prefer talking to absolute strangers or people I know really well. Super nervous in any work social situations, etc.It depends on my mood. And the stranger, lol. Generally I'm an introvert but I've enjoyed the occasional chat with a stranger.
Depends on my mood and my blood alcohol level.
It depends on my mood. And the stranger, lol. Generally I'm an introvert but I've enjoyed the occasional chat with a stranger.
It's interesting seeing so many comments from the non-chatty folks/introverts that are among some of the most prolific posters on the Dis.
Not strictly, no. That’s just an observation I’ve made for the past 40+ years. More clinically, I would say that extroverts are people without rich internal monologues who can’t be bothered to think (or be alone with their thoughts).
Extroverts run media (because they need to talk incessantly, feel “popular,” get their egos stroked, and basically just have people pay attention to them at all times), so it’s ingrained in everyone from a young age that extroverted behavior is more socially acceptable and that extroverts are “friendlier.” Really, they are just selfish and needy messes.
Same for me. I'm an introvert as well - so if my energy is up, I enjoy chatting, but if it's low, I don't.
I'm definitely chattier on line than in real life! In general, I think it's because I'm not good at "thinking out loud" - I much prefer the slower pace of thinking, typing, getting it "right" and then hitting the post button.
Actually, the definition of introvert or extrovert has to do with what builds or drains your energy. An extrovert is energized by being with people. An introvert "spends" energy when dealing with people (which doesn't automatically mean they don't like people - just that they need time alone to recharge.) Neither type is defective!
(It sounds like someone made you feel that way in the past. But really, the world needs both kinds of people, and there's no need to put either type down.)
You sound like a lot of fun!My family sometimes just shakes their heads because I really don't know a stranger for the most part when we're all out and about. I love talking to people and hearing whatever they care to share. I've learned a great deal about people and have also made some really great friends in some cases.
You sound like a lot of fun!
I doubt you'd embarass yourself. You sound like a person who is a joy to be around!Thanks very much! I try to have a good time and not embarrass myself too terribly bad.
But my wife's best friend's mom takes the cake on small talk with strangers. She had a 20 minute conversation on the phone with someone until she, and the other person realized, that the other lady had dialed the wrong number and they did not know each other.
Utterly no interest in talking to strangers in person.
Extroverts are just attention seekers and I'm not there to keep their egos entertained.
Not strictly, no. That’s just an observation I’ve made for the past 40+ years. More clinically, I would say that extroverts are people without rich internal monologues who can’t be bothered to think (or be alone with their thoughts).
Extroverts run media (because they need to talk incessantly, feel “popular,” get their egos stroked, and basically just have people pay attention to them at all times), so it’s ingrained in everyone from a young age that extroverted behavior is more socially acceptable and that extroverts are “friendlier.” Really, they are just selfish and needy messes.
I do get what you're saying but I think it's not fair to tar all extroverts with the same brush. I do know the subset of extrovert that you mean though, I work with one lol. But there are the good kind too, don't forget us introverts would be lost in many situations without them.
Not strictly, no. That’s just an observation I’ve made for the past 40+ years. More clinically, I would say that extroverts are people without rich internal monologues who can’t be bothered to think (or be alone with their thoughts).
Extroverts run media (because they need to talk incessantly, feel “popular,” get their egos stroked, and basically just have people pay attention to them at all times), so it’s ingrained in everyone from a young age that extroverted behavior is more socially acceptable and that extroverts are “friendlier.” Really, they are just selfish and needy messes.
I am very chatty. I'm the person standing in line and will just start talking to whoever is around me...
Utterly no interest in talking to strangers in person.
Extroverts are just attention seekers and I'm not there to keep their egos entertained.
Not strictly, no. That’s just an observation I’ve made for the past 40+ years. More clinically, I would say that extroverts are people without rich internal monologues who can’t be bothered to think (or be alone with their thoughts).
Extroverts run media (because they need to talk incessantly, feel “popular,” get their egos stroked, and basically just have people pay attention to them at all times), so it’s ingrained in everyone from a young age that extroverted behavior is more socially acceptable and that extroverts are “friendlier.” Really, they are just selfish and needy messes.