Help me lord

honeydiane1953 · Oct 15, 2010

I AM BY NO MEANS DEFENDING RUDE BEHAVIOR however I do have this thought. Years ago my then husband and I was sitting quietly in Epcot when this man told his wife "Don't u EVER talk to me again that way", My then husband said "WDW is bad for your marriage. I laughed and thought with all the planning, money, high hopes you do set your self up for a let down. The lines, the heat, your body, the blisters etc. does wear and weigh your usual good behavior sometimes into lunatics. We were at the age when our kids have all left home. So LAWD putting your kids in the mix and I can see where u could temporarily lose your mind. Now I don't think I would EVER hit someone but if u r tired, mad, sick enough one just might????

LuvMyEAR · Oct 15, 2010

Judging from the news and many posts, there are a lot of minds lost on vacation! There is some physics theory somewhere that no doubt explains perfectly the correlation between the height of expection and the depth of disappointment/frustration, I'm sure. :sad2:

Investing a considerable amount of time and money in a vacation just adds to the expection. However, I am personally very willing to fight the theory at every opportunity, anticipate joy and do my best to spread it around. Or at least keep a lid on my own temper and hope others do the same. :flower3:

CanadianPaco · Oct 15, 2010

I often wondered about these outbursts... were they Disney induced or do they happen at home? :confused:

shalom · Oct 15, 2010

honeydiane1953 said:
The lines, the heat, your body, the blisters etc. does wear and weigh your usual good behavior sometimes into lunatics.

Yah. There are studies that indicate most people's estimation of their behavior under stress, and their actual behavior under stress, are poles apart. The calm person believes they'd "never" behave exactly as the same stressed person dies behave. And none of us knows what's actually behind a person losing it - sometimes the person losing it doesn't know, but if you reviewed their day it'd be this act of meanness against them here, that act of rudeness there, combined with the fact that they're coming down with the flu and any number of possible influences. A lot of people who feel abused hold it in when they feel threatened, and snap when they feel safe. :scratchin

Doesn't make what they did right, and sometimes the stress simply exposes what's always there, but I do hesitate to assume that someone losing it at Disney is expressing their "true" nature. There's just no way to know.

:flower3:

Family Fun Mom · Oct 15, 2010

I agree with the OP. My dh and I had a HUGE fight at Disney over something small, I'm sure, because I don't even remember what we fought about. I just remember him storming out of our hotel room while I shouted after him and I saw a man with his kids standing outside our door with wide eyes and dropped jaws that shamed me back into my normal behavior. :blush:

I think the heat, the exhaustion of driving from Michigan, one of our kids was sick, and the go go go of trying to see it all, do it all, just made us snap. Lesson learned. It is a vacation, after all. Taking a break from the parks and relaxing by the pool sometimes is vital. Everybody has a breaking point.

Vivianne · Oct 15, 2010

Please take a deep breath.

There is NO EXCUSE for negative behavior towards ANYONE during your
vacation at Disney. Why? Well, it's not only your vacation. Many other people
have children, have spent time and money for the time to be with their
family to enjoy themselves. No, I don't want to hear people yelling, mistreating, call it what you will directed at family, strangers, etc. Or any form of adult meltdowns.

If you have a valid complaint there is a way to deal with it. Do you want
adults ranting in front of your children? Well, there are loads of children there..and we Don't have any children.

You have a choice, if you're tired Take A Break. Please, show courtesy to
your own children and others. No man/woman is an island. We live in
a society with a vast number and should treat others as we would expect them to
treat us to borrow the quote from the Good Book.

k5thbeatle · Oct 15, 2010

"Help me lord"??? :confused3

mccathy · Oct 15, 2010

Family Fun Mom said:
I agree with the OP. My dh and I had a HUGE fight at Disney over something small, I'm sure, because I don't even remember what we fought about. I just remember him storming out of our hotel room while I shouted after him and I saw a man with his kids standing outside our door with wide eyes and dropped jaws that shamed me back into my normal behavior.

I think the heat, the exhaustion of driving from Michigan, one of our kids was sick, and the go go go of trying to see it all, do it all, just made us snap. Lesson learned. It is a vacation, after all. Taking a break from the parks and relaxing by the pool sometimes is vital. Everybody has a breaking point.

Yup. Our first family trip and I got a little upset with my son because he didn't want to try some ride. My husband gave me a look and said, "why are we here? relax about it." I totally did lose my cool and hearing him said that reminded me why we were there - and it wasn't for me to convince my kid to try every ride.

The sort-of-funny thing was that we went a few weeks before our friends. When they got back I asked one of the kids how the trip was. Turned out his mom did the same thing I did about some ride - made me feel better and we all (my son, her son, and my friend and I) sort of laughed about it and us moms applogized (again) to the kids.

It is a stressful place and it is important to make sure you get your rest and realize you're not going to get to everything.

Lillian Gracey · Oct 15, 2010

I know I'm gonna get stressed out because I want everything to be so perfect for my boyfriend because it's his first time going to Disney World. He's noticed that already when I talk to him about the trip, but he was happy to know that I'm trying to take it down a notch and relax about it and trying not to put too much on our plates.

I'm still probably gonna get stressed. I get angry easily, but I'm trying hard to be more patient. Disney World is a happy place and I should be happy while I'm there.

rie'smom · Oct 15, 2010

k5thbeatle said:
"Help me lord"???

I agree. When reading the title, I thought something dreadful had happened.

LarryNabisco · Oct 15, 2010

chiefmickeymouse · Oct 15, 2010

All right, for all ya'll none southerners out there who are questioning the op's "help me lord" title...this means "please preserve me from the fools around me and help me to not go upside their heads with a shovel". Just thought I'd clarify.

honeydiane1953 · Oct 15, 2010

ty for your help we southerners can't believe YALL don't know what we mean with our sayings. Help me LORD from not acting like an idiot while on vacation. :cool2:

rie'smom · Oct 15, 2010

chiefmickeymouse said:
All right, for all ya'll none southerners out there who are questioning the op's "help me lord" title...this means "please preserve me from the fools around me and help me to not go upside their heads with a shovel". Just thought I'd clarify.

Well from another Southerner, I was taught not to call on the Lord unless you really needed Him right that second. It was considered blasphemy like saying g d.

ShatteredByLoss · Oct 15, 2010

I think my limit came when I was on the monorail with my Mom and my brother. They were bickering over something silly. In reality, everyone was just hot, tired and overloaded. But, I had finally 'had it' and in the middle of the monorail car announced that they "Had better stop arguing, because this was the happiest place on earth!!". Yeah, everyone stopped because of the raised voice and then I sorta smirked as I realized what I had said and so did everyone else then the whole monorail car started laughing.

I think anyone who has been there has had one of those moments.. We try to realize we are getting to that point before we actually 'get' to that point now. Though they can still sneak up on us occasionally! Watch out.. they are sneakier than heffalumps out for honey..

- Loss

honeydiane1953 · Oct 16, 2010

rie'smom said:
Well from another Southerner, I was taught not to call on the Lord unless you really needed Him right that second. It was considered blasphemy like saying g d.[/QUO It is just me or do u like to be sarcastic/augumetative?????

honeydiane1953 · Oct 16, 2010

ShatteredByLoss said:
I think my limit came when I was on the monorail with my Mom and my brother. They were bickering over something silly. In reality, everyone was just hot, tired and overloaded. But, I had finally 'had it' and in the middle of the monorail car announced that they "Had better stop arguing, because this was the happiest place on earth!!". Yeah, everyone stopped because of the raised voice and then I sorta smirked as I realized what I had said and so did everyone else then the whole monorail car started laughing.

I think anyone who has been there has had one of those moments.. We try to realize we are getting to that point before we actually 'get' to that point now. Though they can still sneak up on us occasionally! Watch out.. they are sneakier than heffalumps out for honey..

- Loss

I am thankful u reminded them of their petty annoyance!!!! :woohoo:

Planogirl · Oct 16, 2010

I've gotten irritable while in the parks from time to time. It's usually hot and crowded and I just get tired of the lines and rude behavior. I know that it's time to take a break when I feel like that so that I don't end up getting all spun up and affect someone else with my mood.

Lillian Gracey · Oct 16, 2010

honeydiane1953 said:
ty for your help we southerners can't believe YALL don't know what we mean with our sayings. Help me LORD from not acting like an idiot while on vacation.

I knew what ya meant. My grandparents on my mother's side are from Arkansas and my Grandma would say, "Good Lord" or something along those lines if one of us grandkids were stirring up trouble. :rotfl:

She and my Grandpa are so cute. I love them to death. :lovestruc

Rhonna · Oct 16, 2010

We really enjoy our trips. We purposely plan off season, lower heat and crowds, enough time to do what we want (we don't go every year) and enjoy room service breakfast often, sit down lunches in the parks and sit down dinners either in the parks or resorts. In our immediate family we like each other so that's who we travel with. I also plan very carefully and yet allow for changes while there. We really like being with each other and when we do get to travel we are thrilled because we don't get to very often.

I think when people push themselves to do too much in too little time or expect too much of their family or of disney or they go with people they don't know well or don't get along with or expect the "perfect trip" for their children, they are setting themselves up for misery. Or they don't plan at all and are frustrated. What's the point in that kind of vacation? I want happy memories and an enjoyable trip, not fights.

We have gone in September heat and humidity before. Not pleasant but we drank a lot to keep hydrated and took it slow. Then decided not to go in that kind of heat again.

Our hardest time was coming in from the west coast, getting in late and getting a bit lost in our rental car on the back roads of AK resort after picking up drinking water containers at a convenience store. When we finally checked in to GF (don't remember why but) we didn't use bell service but trudged all our luggage and big containers of water to the farthest building, we got inside the building lobby and dropped one of the (2-3 gallon) plastic containers on the floor, it burst open - water everywhere! We were so exhausted we just started laughing uncontrollably. (We did find a way to call and made sure it was mopped up so no other guests would slip.) I guess we just don't blow up at one another in real life so we don't on vacation either.

I was sickened at dinner at Rose and Crown one night by a family with two boys - middle school and maybe close to high school. They weren't making any noise or problems that we noticed and they we right next to us, but apparently the father was unhappy with something the older boy did or said and the dad hauled of and blindsided the kid on the head - REALLY HARD. It was apparent from the family reaction that this was normal for them. If a stranger had done that to my kid, I would have had them checked for a concussion.

I realize some act abnormally for them out of stress but I do think some of the worst things we see at WDW may be an extension of normal life for many people. Very sad.

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