i must remain calm, i must remain calm

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dumbo_buddy

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dh, ds (age 1) and i leave for WDW on sunday morning! :cheer2: it'll be our first trip as DVC owners and the trip just couldn't come at a better time. dh had to leave his job for a new one since he believes the current one is about to go under. the new job involves a commute to jersey and less money. anyway, enough of that....let's just say it's been stressful and i can't WAIT to just be at disney!!

but here's where i need your help. i don't know if it's b/c i'm a new yorker or just because i have bad nerves but i sometimes tend to lose my patience at disney. i never say anything nasty but i do internalize my annoyance with people (you know, like the guy who is a little too close to the back of you in line, the lady who cuts in front of you in the bathroom, the kids on wheelies, etc). i don't want to get annoyed and let silly little things like that ruin my trip.

how do you just let it go? take deep breaths? i'm just not going to allow my usual pet peeves to get the best of me. it's silly to get all in a huff about someone not moving far enough down the row. who cares?? my dh is so good like that, he lets everything roll off his back.

how do YOU do it??

(i realize i sound like i need xanax! lol!)
 
dumbo_buddy said:
dh, ds (age 1) and i leave for WDW on sunday morning! :cheer2: it'll be our first trip as DVC owners and the trip just couldn't come at a better time. dh had to leave his job for a new one since he believes the current one is about to go under. the new job involves a commute to jersey and less money. anyway, enough of that....let's just say it's been stressful and i can't WAIT to just be at disney!!

but here's where i need your help. i don't know if it's b/c i'm a new yorker or just because i have bad nerves but i sometimes tend to lose my patience at disney. i never say anything nasty but i do internalize my annoyance with people (you know, like the guy who is a little too close to the back of you in line, the lady who cuts in front of you in the bathroom, the kids on wheelies, etc). i don't want to get annoyed and let silly little things like that ruin my trip.

how do you just let it go? take deep breaths? i'm just not going to allow my usual pet peeves to get the best of me. it's silly to get all in a huff about someone not moving far enough down the row. who cares?? my dh is so good like that, he lets everything roll off his back.

how do YOU do it??

(i realize i sound like i need xanax! lol!)
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First of all here's a :hug:. Second I am dying laughing only because you sound like me. I don't know if it's my "northern" nature or what, LOL. We leave Friday and just last night I said to everyone we are not going to complain this trip about other "people" in the park that annoy us. We are just going to go and enjoy each other as a family and not let anyone else get to us. Then I'll take a xanax :rotfl:, just kidding.
 
I am also a fellow NYer. I was talking to my husband about the same thing. It seems someone always has a meltdown about something. Then I look around and go "see everyone else here knows how to relax" I actually do take Xanax for the trip down. (We drive and my husband make me extremely nervous...he is an excellent driver but I am a bad passenger) I may just have to make sure I keep a couple extra just in case!:lmao:
 
just keep saying to yourself that you are on vacation in the happiest place!
enjoy your first trip home!
 


I, too, get really annoyed with what seems to be a trend toward rudeness but haven't had it ruin my trip ... well, except for the time an ECV "novice" backed up without looking and ran over my foot, breaking a toe! Fortunately that was at the end of our last day! I just remember that as annoying as it is these individuals are still in the minority and my child never behaved that way! Really, she didn't! ;)
 
Just accept that your feelings are normal but don't let them rule you. Let the feeling wash over you then be gone. It also helps to plan a nice relaxing evening and have that to look forward to.

Have fun!

:)
 
lol, I grew up in Staten Island - the same thing used to happen to me. But I'm upstate now - and life is different, we're not all crammed in on top of one another. It's definitely made a difference in my reactions to people. If the guy ahead of me doesn't immediately move up to fill in the space in front of him - that's fine...I'm getting on the ride at exactly the same time either way.
BUT...if someone does something rude that affects me..well...then my NY attitude rears it's ugly head! There was a guy that cut through all of us who were patiently waiting for FP to TSM...we all let him, assuming he was with someone at the front. Well, as he got to the front, the woman who had been at the machine left, he went right up to it and started feeding his tickets through. We all just looked at each other....and then I got mad! I said as politely as I could "excuse me..but did you even know anyone on the line"...lol...he must have been from NY or NJ himself - because he totally blew up at me! He was so loud and nasty that a CM stepped in and escorted him away! Turns out the woman who had stepped away was his wife...but that's all he had to say - instead he was cursing and saying it was none of my *** business, etc...I was watching for him the rest of the day, and feeling sorry for his family for having to try and enjoy themselves in his company!
 


I'm a Jersey girl & used to get my horns twisted allthe time. Now it's just some of the time :goodvibes

Usually I've had enough by the end of the trip or if someone is really pushing the line past the normal annoyances. I swear some of them were raised by wolves :eek: :confused: :rolleyes1

Anyway, don't give 'em the satisfaction of knowing they got to you. They are going to end up ruining your day much more than you will theirs because they obviously don't care in the first place.

Also, we spend much more time by the pool now & less at the parks so I'm more relaxed to begin with :cloud9:
 
I totally understand your feelings. On one trip I was sooo close to losing it until my grown DS said - "Mom, please don't get upset at all of these people who are behaving badly. They can't understand that Disney World was built just for you and you alone!" I looked at him and we both started laughing. That's when I knew that my best medicine was humor. Now when I visit I try to notice the people that "know" the park was built for them and laugh.
 
I'm with you. As I have gotten older I discovered that I don't like crowds or large groups of people and I hate it even more when the people are completely clueless.

What I found helps me is being aware of it -- if that makes any sense. I know before I go into a park what it is going to be like. That there will be rude people, or clueless people, etc. Expecting it helps me to stay calm. I guess what I am saying is my reaction is worse when rude people or clueless people happen unexpectedly. I know about it in advance and I work on accepting it.
 
Madhatter266 said:
I totally understand your feelings. On one trip I was sooo close to losing it until my grown DS said - "Mom, please don't get upset at all of these people who are behaving badly. They can't understand that Disney World was built just for you and you alone!" I looked at him and we both started laughing. That's when I knew that my best medicine was humor. Now when I visit I try to notice the people that "know" the park was built for them and laugh.
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love this!! i am going to think of it when i start to get steamed.

i think that perhaps the fact that i am now acknowledging the fact that i tend to get...um....annoyed...with people will be a big help. i'll just acknowledge it and remind myself that there's no sense in letting them bother me.

but maaaaan, it's going to be hard. hahahaha. perhaps an extra mickey ice cream bar will make me feel better when some kid pushes my kid down at the play area ;)
 
I guess my advice would be.. take a breath, roll your eyes and try to make a joke out of it.

My brother actually started counting the people that went past us in line 'to get to their group' and it became a running joke.. "Guest number 897,98,99, 900, 901, 902." On the next ride he would start again. "Guest number 1632, 33,34. (no way we had seen that many, but we kept adding random numbers to make it funny) By the end of it, we were up to over 10 billllllllion (and one) people.

Good luck, remember that a cool sweet treat (ice cream, dole whip, mickey bar.. etc..etc..) and some good air conditioning can be the difference from strangling some little sweetheart who keeps ramming the stroller into your legs and enjoying yourself.

Take care,

- Loss
:littleangel:
 
Another fellow NYer here (living in NJ now, but spent the first 36 years in NY so I'll always be a NYer!) I know how you feel, there are times when people just make me nuts at Disney, but I just remind myself where I am and that I'm not going to let them spoil my fun. My biggest pet peeve is slow movers, I realize that NYers tend to move at a faster pace than people from other parts of the country, but man there's nothing more annoying than people walking at a snails pace or stopping in the middle of the road to read a map. That's also my least favorite thing about tourists in NYC. When I'm rushing to make my bus home and a group of tourists are slowly making their way up the street I just want to push them out of my way. LOL But then I take a deep breath and remind myself to smile and think peaceful thoughts. LOL :hippie:
 
Oh boy, you and other posters on this thread sound like me but I'm from Chicago.
I get annoyed and anxious easily. I do have to remind myself that I am on vacation and that everything will be alright. I have Xanax with me at all times and humor definitely helps. My worst day is usually my last day or second to last day because I know I will be going home soon and I get depressed and cranky.
My advice is to try to enjoy every minute and remember that everything, even the annoying stuff, will be a memory to treasure long after you return home.
 
Okay....so now I am a little scared of being in front of any of ya'll in line. Maybe I should ask the people directly behind me if they are from the north...if so I'll just let them in front of me. :thumbsup2
 
I am a born and rasied Long Islander who transplanted to NC 7 years ago. I drove back to NY two months ago. On the drive up, I was the epitome of a courteous driver. Letting other people in, mergin politely etc. The SECOND I crossed into Staten Island I became a crazy cabbie yelling and swearing at other drivers ("WOAH WOAH! Hey, look at 'dis moron trying to cut in line!" etc)

At Disney, I generally try to chill, but like you I get annoyed when people don't move all the way down in a theatre when instructed, or move up in line to fill in space, or God help them try to cut me.
 
i mean, look, i know it's not just us new yorkers who get annoyed. maybe we (me) are just more vocal about it. lol!

i love disney so much and get so excited with every upcoming trip. i just need to tell myself that i can't let anything ruin it! that kind of goes with anything in life!

i think the other thing i might do is to skip things that i know may potentially make me mad. do i really need to book it to the FP machines for toy story when i have a 15 month old with me? no! so why not head to honey i shrunk the audience set for some toddling around instead? my son will enjoy it more and it'll guarantee a nice little nap in the stroller which will give dh and i some time to people watch.

ah, see, i'm already feeling more calm.....ooohhhhhmmmmmm.....
 
Hon, don't worry, it's not just a New Yorker thing! Us Southern folk get that way too!! Any situation with large crowds is a source of frustration with me. Sometimes it seems while I have an agenda, others are clueless about what they are doing and everyone around them, and it hinders my ability to do what I want to do. I know this is just my perception of things, and I have to remind myself that just because somebody is not on the same page as me that they are "wrong". I agree with PPs that just remind yourself to chill and that you're on vacation and so is everybody else, and if you get worked up, take a time out. Also, if possible avoid situations that you know are going to cause you aggrevation (which is why I've never seen Fantasmic!), and take your meds if available (note to self: ck w/dr. before my next trip).

Good luck!! It'll all be good!!:goodvibes
 
We are just home for our 10-day Disney trip and I can tell you there was definitely not a shortage of rude people! It seemed every corner I turned, somebody was having a meltdown. There were people were cutting in line it seemed everywhere we went whether it was a ride, the bathroom, at a counter service meal, etc. I even had a lady bump into me in Tomorrowland (her elbow brushed mine) and when I said "I am so sorry, please excuse me", she just looked at me like she was going to kick my a$$. We saw countless arguing couples and kids having meltdowns (including teenagers). The last night we were in the MK waiting on the curb for the parade to start, we saw a HUGE fight between a couple (they had no kids). They were swearing at each other, yelling, arms were flying and gesturing in the air. It was HUGE! It made me count my blessings and be thankful that the couple of meltdowns my kids had were just minor and nothing like that, LOL!
 
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