Why would law enforcement DNA samples be "more relevant"? I thought CODIS only has information on individuals involved in crimes. Wouldn't it be more likely to find relatives among the millions of people who have done tests like Ancestry or 23andMe?
What do you mean they are "not all that accurate"? If you have a DNA match, it's because they are related to you. There's nothing really "iffy" about it.
As for the part in red, that seems fairly enlightening about your opinions on discouraging people from using DNA sites. Many people would be excited about having the opportunity to meet a relative that they didn't know existed rather than being "saddled" with meeting "this person".
There are many reason why people would not want to meet with these folks.
This can cause all sorts of strife and issues for the family as the OP alluded to .
If you go looking for it its one thing.. if its just thrust upon you that someone is going to be in your town next week and they are your niece can you meet them. We don't really get that choice to decide if we want to do that. To add to it - her mother was not someone we got along with or even knew - she was 25 years older than us and had left the country before we were born - so we had little to tell the daughter.
In our case we were very lucky....my BIL was not so lucky. There were a total of 4 kids that turned up in this quest to find anyone related to us. Two of them were a problem and ended up stealing cash from someone's purse at a family event he had invited them to. The police also showed up more than once at his house looking for them because they gave his address when they arrived in the country. The fourth kid was a very successful business man and after meeting the two half brothers wanted nothing more to do with them.. but they still are reaching out to him trying to get money.
There were also some other folks that were related and again they were good people, but I'm just not all that interested in meeting them. When we go home for a family get together we have limited time with the people we want to see and we don't need it taken up by more people we have no real connection to or interest in.
Of the 11 bothers and sisters in the family there is just the one who keeps pushing this things - no one else is interested - but not a lot we can do - she continues to dig into it - and yes we have told her to leave us out if it.
She is a very nice person and have very good intentions, but just cant understand its of no interest to anyone else.
As for the DNA stuff - Id want an official one for legal reason in case there is a claim against an estate etc.. later.
We had a guy show up and claim to be my grandfathers son long before all these services - looking for a piece of the estate - its cost us a fair amount of money to deal with and in the end he was not what he claimed to be - so yeah I am a bit jaded.
My accuracy comment was more about when they say you are from this village in that country.
That is what is not always accurate and changes as they collet more data.
I agree if the DNA says your related most likely you are.