Must DH wear suit to a wedding

[BrianL]

Isn't it up to the wedding couple to decide on the dress code? Could you just ask them if they prefer anything? I would guess that if they didn't specify, then they don't have expectations.

 

[_19disnA]

It will be fine if he wears a dress shirt/tie. It isn't like there is going to be some styling consultant at the door passing judgement on who to let in based on their outfit...............LOL. Honestly, most events are far more casual now then say 25 yrs ago. Wear what you feel comfortable wearing. I seriously doubt anyone expects you to buy a suit for this specific occasion. Parents of the bridge/groom generally wear fancier outfits, but no one is going to care what any of the other guests are wearing. If someone doesn't like what you are wearing, there will probably be many other guests you can visit with instead.

The wedding venue of an aquarium seems to also imply a less formal setting.

 

[sam_gordon]

I'm a grown man, I don't call it a "dress shirt." I just call it a "shirt."

A "dress shirt" is different from a "polo shirt" is different from a "T-shirt".

If you call them all "shirts", how do people know what you're referring to?

 

[sam_gordon]

It isn't like there is going to be some styling consultant at the door passing judgement on who to let in based on their outfit

Unless @CaptainAmerica is there. LOL.

 

[AppleDumpling]

Must he? no
Will anyone judge him to be underdressed? maybe
Will anyone care? probably not

Standards of dress for weddings are very regional. Around here, weddings tend to be more formal affairs where men wear suits, but perhaps it is different where you live. Honestly a 72-year-old man who doesn’t own a suit, or even a sports jacket, would be unusual here. But it sounds like you’re not willing to spend more money and have already made the decision. Have a good time!

 

[Allison]

He will be perfectly fine in what you suggest.

 

[NAB]

I am asking this as a person older than the OP’s husband. Surely your husband will need a suit to attend funerals? I can’t imagine not having at least one suit in my wardrobe.

You know I think it really depends what circles you hang around with. Never been to Black Tie and wedding invites never say what to wear here. Wear ”your best”

I was brought up to wear black and suits to funerals. Last 10 years it’s just come it seems.

Weddings are going that way too I’m afraid.

 

[TAX GUY]

Sigh. My son wears suits to weddings and he's two years old.

Your two year old is invited to weddings, as a guest? Aren't invitations addressed as "Mr and Mrs" or "Mr(s) and guest"? Not Mr and Mrs and family? Or did you just dress Jr up in a suit and bring him along?

 

[TipsyTraveler]

Unless @CaptainAmerica is there. LOL.

…denying entry to the underdressed.

 

[mrodgers]

"Other people also dressed like slobs" is not an excuse to dress like a slob.

I'll dress how you want me to dress as long as you're ok slipping and sliding in all the sweat I've dripped on the floor. I don't wear suits. I don't wear long sleeves. You're lucky that you see me at a wedding in long pants. Make me dress fancy, and it's you who is going to have to deal with being around the smell of me pouring out sweat roasting in the fancy clothes.

Plus I'd appreciate it not being called a slob just because I think skipping out on 3 months of my electric bill just to buy fancy clothes is ridiculous.

 

[soccerdad72]

…denying entry to the underdressed.
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Without his coat and tie, no less

 

[GreatLakes]

I don't understand a grown man not owning at least one suit but I'd just ask the couple or whomever you know close to the couple. There are locations and people that will insist you wear a suit or tuxedo and others that just won't care. Unless you ask you won't know which camp the couple are in but if there is a dress code stated on the invitation it should be adhered to.

 

[tvguy]

I agree with folks that he will be fine. But I have one "get married and get buried" suit just in case.

 

[kymom99]

Their first, second or third "most special day" taking those vows?

Try not to strain too much looking down your nose at the others that say no suit is ok at a wedding.

The days of wearing a suit to wedding, while the groom and groomsmen wore tuxedo's are very few and far between. Many of the wedding party wear suits (and sneakers) now, while most guests wear dockers, button down shirt and sometimes a neck tie.

Some people can’t understand that times change. I have a friend who gets all bent out of shape because young people these days don’t write in cursive.

 

[CaptainAmerica]

I bet you guys wear rubber-soled shoes, too.

 

[CaptainAmerica]

Your two year old is invited to weddings, as a guest? Aren't invitations addressed as "Mr and Mrs" or "Mr(s) and guest"? Not Mr and Mrs and family? Or did you just dress Jr up in a suit and bring him along?

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
Emily Smith
Timothy Smith

If Emily Smith is over 18, she gets her own invitation made out to "Miss Emily Smith and Guest," even if she lives at the same address as Mr. and Mrs. John Smith.

 

[rlk]

I have better things to get worked up about than if someone adheres to antiquated 'Etiquette Norms" at a wedding. OP, enjoy the wedding in your slacks, shirt, and tie.

 

[CaptainAmerica]

I have better things to get worked up about than if someone adheres to antiquated 'Etiquette Norms" at a wedding.

"I know better than the collected wisdom of thousands of years of human history. Screw those old dead bastards, what did they know?"

Tradition is tradition for a reason.

 

[TAX GUY]

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
Emily Smith
Timothy Smith

If Emily Smith is over 18, she gets her own invitation made out to "Miss Emily Smith and Guest," even if she lives at the same address as Mr. and Mrs. John Smith.

Huh, must be something new because it was only ever Mr and Mrs invited to something as special as a wedding. So now they also invite their children. Imagine that, old traditions that have changed over time...

 

[kdonnel]

I’d be tempted to wear a bathing suit. Maybe they have a swim with the fishes program.

Otherwise dockers and a collared shirt is fine.

I wouldn’t invest in the wedding given that about half of marriages end in divorce.