I get it, but I am clarifying that there are many ppl with that affinity who don’t believe the government should make that decision b/c is a private matter. Doesn’t mean they don’t judge certain circumstances related to it if that makes sense. Personally, I think she should legally be allowed to use a surrogate or whatever floats her boat. But, I do think it’s speaks to her personality/priorities which may end up making motherhood harder for her.
I'm discussing like I would everyday conversation but I think it's more telling that you would gravitate towards attention seeking. If you can't feel comfortable discussing with your family or your friends about your surrogacy journey or the reasons behind it because they would find it cringy, because you're not "supposed to" talk about it that's the problem.
My thoughts are "do surrogates in America get paid"? Otherwise, I can't fathom why someone would do this simply to save a B-lister from the horror of stretch marks, or whatever else it was she thought would ruin her career.
Because of this. Because of this whole conversation. No matter what women choose, people feel like they are entitled to pick it apart, criticism and condemn.
Not sure why it matters. Congrats to them.
Because of this. Because of this whole conversation. No matter what women choose, people feel like they are entitled to pick it apart, criticism and condemn.
Had your kids at 20? "Oh. Are you sure you're financially secure?"
Had your kids at 35? "Goodness, are you even going to be around for your grandkids?"
Had one child? "Don't you think that's selfish to not give your child a companion?"
Had five children? "Can you provide for them and/or it's environmentally irresponsible to have so many children"
Heaven forbid you are a young, childless woman. You never hear the end of it.
Or heaven forbid you want your tubes tied while you're still in your child rearing years.
You may ask WHY she needed an excuse - because we ALWAYS do. Everyone thinks they're entitled to tell a woman exactly when, how and why they should have children.
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So is that a YES, surrogates are paid in the US? Here they legally cannot be, only reimbursed for verifiable expenses.
Yes, they’re paid (unless you have a willing friend or family member). $90,000 to $130,000 on average according to my first Google hit.
https://surrogacy.ca/intended-parents/expenses-reimbursement.html#:~:text=A surrogate mother (and her,, pregnancy and post partum).
It's a bit unclear in the Netherlands if you can be paid or not. One thing that is definitely not allowed to have a commercial business in it. Agencies you pay to find a surrogate etc. are not allowed. Most medical costs are covered through healthcare, so that takes care of that.
https://surrogacy.ca/intended-parents/expenses-reimbursement.html#:~:text=A surrogate mother (and her,, pregnancy and post partum).
There's got to be an easier way to make a living.
And under the Canadian law that requires surrogacy to be altruistic, I can't think of a person in the world (past, present or future) for whom I'd be willing to do it.
Because of this. Because of this whole conversation. No matter what women choose, people feel like they are entitled to pick it apart, criticism and condemn.
Had your kids at 20? "Oh. Are you sure you're financially secure?"
Had your kids at 35? "Goodness, are you even going to be around for your grandkids?"
Had one child? "Don't you think that's selfish to not give your child a companion?"
Had five children? "Can you provide for them and/or it's environmentally irresponsible to have so many children"
Heaven forbid you are a young, childless woman. You never hear the end of it.
Or heaven forbid you want your tubes tied while you're still in your child rearing years.
You may ask WHY she needed an excuse - because we ALWAYS do. Everyone thinks they're entitled to tell a woman exactly when, how and why they should have children.
wow, seriously, so someone who wants to be a mother but does not want to get pregnant is lazy and and entitled for choosing another way?
